Dating before aroos

[Enlightened~Sista]

Faarax ( smiling ): Salaam Calaikum walaal..Mashallah gabadh kuruxbadan oo sharaf leh baad tahay

Xalimo: Walaal come and meet Hooyo and Aabo << doesnt smile thinks its sort of xaraam!

[INCONSPICUOUS]

Yes. There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone and maybe have a coffee or two..... I think.

i agree. what if you do marry someone you dont know, then you realise you dont get along. then you have to get a divorce. you could have found all this out while gettin to know some1 before the marriage

saves a lot of trouble

[Madd_Scientist_]

Certainly does

[TrophY-WifeY-]

what do u mean with ruined?

so if someone sees u with a guy just walking/talking and maybe laughing its a crime?


its hypocricy, cause why would one be afraid of others while allah sees u 24/7? If a girl says she wont do dating or talking to guys out of deen,,,,i understand....but if she says: i dont do it cause of reputation risk...its called hypocricy.

I say go for the date's how else are you going to know a "xaliimo"?, Ain't nothing wrong with getting to know someone you like. Don't worry about girls like xelwaa they are the worse offenders. and online act all innocent. ..Talking about against this against that.. bullshit...


How do you think i got my faarax..

[BABYGIRL123]

I dont have a problem with dating but you cant date everybody you see and you have to be out of the sight of somalis,.

[gurey25]

ive only "dated" one somali girl and when i did i went through the front door, coz i sorta
knew the family, met the mother and father then told them that we were going out for some coffee.
if you have no bad intentions, you have nothing to hide..

and i have this ability to make people trust me, automatically
even wadaads are charmed...
if only i was evil enough to abuse that...

[AbdiWahab252]

Gurey,

Never do that again. All of a sudden her family and yours is asking 1 million questions on how things are progressing. Then extra pressure is applied to the potential shukaansi.

Personally, I prefer keeping all dating in the Luuq and save yourself the headache of having others getting to know.

[zulaika]

b/c these are the times we live in and i didn't make the rules, chivalry died centuries ago.

^^
and thus affording modern times with ladies and germs.

[kambuli]

Abdigani,

Forget about people who tell you what they don't do themselves;

Let us be real here..

Nothing is wrong with clean innocent dating...The only problem is, sometimes when people of different sexes find themselves alone..The Satan encourages them to do things that are not Islamic..That is why it is always good to avoid being lonely with the girl..Some men are nasty and would do everything to ruin the girl if she is not strong

That is all...But honestly nothing wrong with getting to know each other!

[Enlightened~Sista]

There is nothing wrong with getting to know each other....stop being extreme people.

you're right kambuli.

[Dhers]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them" (Tirmidhi).

[Enlightened~Sista]

Who said they should be alone? i dont believe they should be alone in a room..nor do i believe grown people who have islamic adaab need to be baby sat.

[Dhers]