Moderators: Moderators, Junior Moderators
Last night I was watching a documentary about the customs of some Palestinian villagers. It said over 80% of their marriages are arranged through swapping/badal marriages i.e. a brother & a sister marry a brother and a sister from another family or a father & daughter marry from a family with a single mother and a son, etc.
This practice is outlawed in Islam, but these people were all Muslim and claiming its the only way Islam permits it. They even interviewed some 'Sheikh' who was claiming it was the custom throughout Islam's history. Rampant ignorance is killing us; both literally & figuratively.
sxb qolodaan aad sheegayso waxaa la yiraahdaa samaritans mana ahan muslimiin waa gaaloo ayaga dhaqankaas isticmaala tiradoodana aad ayey u yartahay sabatana waxa tahay guurka noocaas oo ayaga isticmaalaanLast night I was watching a documentary about the customs of some Palestinian villagers. It said over 80% of their marriages are arranged through swapping/badal marriages i.e. a brother & a sister marry a brother and a sister from another family or a father & daughter marry from a family with a single mother and a son, etc.
This practice is outlawed in Islam, but these people were all Muslim and claiming its the only way Islam permits it. They even interviewed some 'Sheikh' who was claiming it was the custom throughout Islam's history. Rampant ignorance is killing us; both literally & figuratively.
This practice was prohibited, because some Walis (guardians) used to demand that in order for their sisters/daughters to be wed, the family marrying their sisters/daughters had to provide them with brides as well or else they would refuse permitting such a marriage to proceed. This is essentially abusing their power, it was outlawed as a result.
I will find the hadith and put it up soon, insha Allah.
kolombo i didnt understand.
why is haram if the both parties are agreed on exchange?
or they are saying that is only way to marry in islam?
wa nabad, what about you? lolkolombo i didnt understand.
why is haram if the both parties are agreed on exchange?
or they are saying that is only way to marry in islam?
hyper iskaa waraan walaal.
Diyeeshe,
Kuwaan xalay arkay Muslimnimo bey sheeganaayeen.
AW,
The way I understood it, its not about poverty, but about sustaining strong communal ties.
They rarely marry outside their villages and they're a very strong patriarchial society.
hyperactive,
They make it a condition, without find an exchange for themselves, they won't let their daughters/sisters marry.
This makes it illegitimate, because it falls under the category of abusing their power.
Hyperactive,
There's a hadith that clearly forbids it, I don't want to misquote it, but will put it up as soon as I find it.
About the meher, I heard some women in the Gulf states are reaching their 30s without marriage proposals because fathers are demanding large meher.
Basra,
Are you done with psycho-analyzing me?
Return to “General - General Discussions”
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 31 guests