Meher Vs. Court Mandated Settlement

[Minneapolis Mayor]

The woman is entitled to her meher the first night of you getting into her pants. If you can't pay for some reason, Its like a dayn to you because she already owns it the first night. Dayn kuma xalaaloowdo in aad waqti badan haysato. If she asks for the divorce, Yes, you can ask her to pay back the meher she already took and she is not entitle to the remaining. Waa Muqalifah. Most somali guys just give the meher to her anyway regardless of whether she asks for divorce or not. We are supper nice than the arabs. Carabta kitaabka ayay soo kala furanaysaah and they would start negotiated bit by bit ilaa dollarka ugu danbeeyo qofka leh iyo qofka luguleeyahay la ogaado. Xishood iyo dhaqan iyo ceeb waxaas waa dhaqan soomaali.

[Hyperactive]

strange or smart, I would say the latter in a heartbeat

lol i wrote stupid but i changed to strange. cause guys are not so stupid, they do everything on the book to make the woman suffer and after years come to the ame court to ask khul3 .lol

you cannot keep some one by signing them 100000$ .

[Shirib]

^True.

however let me get this straight, islamically speaking after a divorce
if there are kids, you have to provide for them, but if there aren't kids
you give your wife her meher unless it was initiated by her.

Seems fair

So what is this alimony business, why are you expected
to give money to this woman if you had no kids with her?
Surely divorce means go your separate ways

Meher has to be given to her whether you guys are married or divorced. She is entitled to it regardless of what happens to the marriage. She doesn't get it only if she get's divorced.

I know what you're talking about ...but I've heard people
delaying its payment.

Mida kale I thought if a woman initiates divorce
where reasons of abondoment, no kids and no provision
are not the case i.e. everything else then she gives back the meher.

Is this huuhaa or is it valid?

She is entitled to the entire meher, even if she asks for a divorce. Regardless if there are children or not.

Once you agree to the meher and the nikaah happens, she is entitled to that money. That's why they say what the meher amount out loud for everyone to hear at the nikaah so that everyone is a witness. Whether you give it to her up front, or at the end, or while married it is an obligation for the man to pay it.

And if he dies before he pays that to her, let's hope the wife is kind enough to forgive him for it.

For some reason most Somali's think that the meher is insurance to give the woman incase of a divorce, but that is not the case. Naagta is completely entitled to the meher amount.