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exactly, why not look westernized haleemo instead westernized Ethiopian?In that case you should have said a western person. If you're western then a xabashi christian or not will be alien to you, possibly as much as a Somali from the semi desert. From what i have experienced Somalis do come in all types, you'll find that there exists one type more frequently than others though. You will find Somali women that are westernised and one in particular in a somali home, most somalis born in the west are a mishmash anyway, and more often than not (even if religious) are very western in mentality, outlook and behaviour. Also there are plenty of non - religious somalis in the west.Most Somalis around me are salafis who believe anyone who isn't like them or agrees with them is a non-muslim. I myself am pretty westernized and definitely have a lot in common with a habesha person that is equally westernized and religion doesn't play a central role in their life.If you consider xabashi christians to have more in common with you than a somali muslim than you need to check your beliefs and culture because it sure isnt islamic nor does there seem to be anything remotely somali about you. By the way "ajnabi" includes a wide array of disparate cultures. You can't speak about it as it's a monolith.I think we are less of a somali because of where we are raised. If you were raised in a somali household and are culturally western than what on earth would make you more similar to a western xabashi than any other ethnicity though?Somalis around me have no diversity in terms of their hobbies and personal interests/passions. I diverge from that ideal in many respects, and there's no issue in admitting that. That still doesn't make me any less Somali, however.
its not even about that, most ethiopian muslims and christians dont even follow their faith to the book, it has to do with children. Unless your christian habesha wife is ok with her children not being apart of the Tawahedo faith, youre going to have problems. Im an athiest so I dont care, but eventually if you're somali and youre not that religious and you marry a habesha, eventually you will go back to the faith.It depends.You can only date Habeshas if theyre muslim. If theyre Christian, dont even bother. Somalis and Habeshas are too rigid when it comes to religion. Christian Oromo(oromised habesha) and Habesha marriages tend to succeed since they belong to the same religion.
A lot of people are not very religious, including Habeshas or Somalis.
It may make it more difficult with the families, but even with the religious barrier it still happens.
Sheikh, most westernized halimos around here do not want anything to do with a farax, which is fine. For the few that do I find there are many unnecessary hoops to jump through and the fact that when you are marrying her you won't just be marrying her but also her family, so you have to deal with the headaches of their meddling. Understandably, I don't want any of that. It's also a very rare to find any Somali family who would be fine with me marrying into their family given I come from an outcast tribe. Most people in my family are married to ajnabis and they are doing very well mashallah.exactly, why not look westernized haleemo instead westernized Ethiopian?
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