I think best age for a woman to start having kids is at age 28,
Its cool, kiddo. You still got another 5-7 years before those things become a priority.
BV is 21-23 years of age
Genius
I don't neccessarly thing the way our parents raise children is wrong, but on the contrary that it was correct within the Somali environment we came from, where families lived next to eachother and your whole extended family was there supporting you. But in western society this is not the case, and its always changing where last generation was stay at home mom's and this generation is working mom's. So you can understand where the confuscian is coming from, and why there is so much research about child raising even though you can consider most of it outdated material.
Now we have a unique position in today's society, and that calls for innovative parents. They have to handle all the stresses of child-raising, religion, culture, and work. Many times with small extended families or no outside help. They essentially have to pave their own paths on an uncharted road.
What we need more than ever is firm grounding in strong principles, no cheating the government, or any system, honesty, integrity, and flexibility to navigate an ever changing world. A strong parental role modeling for our children, not only for us but for them, so they can survive and thrive here.
It might of been possible to have children at age 16 1/2 to 18 in somalia where the young girls were more mature to take on that kind of responsibility. Unfortunately, its very unlikely that a girl ages 21-23 can effectively balance a marriage, her career, children, and culture, in such a hostile environment. Theres just more factors here in the west, and a smaller emphasis on the kind of responsibilities children bear in somalia compared to children here (extended childhoods and pre-adolescents)
This is why I believe that many of the more educated men and women will most likely start to marry and settle down in their mid to late 20's, and even 30's. And have fewer children than traditionaly.
