To the brothers: taking back gifts. .

[Lillaahiya]

I would return it if asked but if not, I would probably never use it again or give it away. I'm pretty iffy about receiving gifts from someone you're not even married to though It's a liability.

[Ismail87]

Real men don't ask for it back. Let it go and just restart with a new Xalimo. If its a just a GF that's another story, I do kick her azz and take it back by force. Tas oo kale xaaq ma laha but if she was a wife and especially she has kids for you, even if its a house let it go...

even if she's a gf, I wouldn't take it back qaylo iyo drama aan loo baahnayn maxaad isu gelin

[Vivacious]

It depends what kind of gift.

It depends kulahaa. War isku xishoow.

If its a just a GF that's another story, I do kick her azz and take it back by force. Tas oo kale xaaq ma laha

Shame on you!


Bact to the topic,

A Somali man will never ask for his gifts back. Ilaahey nama tuso kaas oo kale. Mida kale if he asked, I would not give him back. Because, one way or an other, I would not use his presents hadii aan kala tagno so whatever he gave me, xaasidnimo ayaan hortiisa ugu gubi lahaa.

[BlackVelvet]

whatever he gave me, xaasidnimo ayaan hortiisa ugu gubi lahaa.

I don't think a female should accept valuable presents from a guy who is not her husband or her fiance. Say you call off the wedding, dude should get his ring back.

[AyeeyoH]

Nimanka somalida badankoodo saqajaanimada ma yaqaanan.Hadyada ugu qaalisan ee nin somali bixiya waa dahab...kaasna maalinta waraaqdada ku siiyo ba la iibsha.

[DisplacedDiraac]

Nimanka somalida badankoodo saqajaanimada ma yaqaanan.Hadyada ugu qaalisan ee nin somali bixiya waa dahab...kaasana maalinta waraaqdada ku siiyo ba la iibsha.

They don't request the dahab back do they.. Speaking of Somali men and dahab I know of one incident where the husband and his 'family' swapped the wife's dahab to a cheaper set when they separated..

I do agree that females shouldn't accept expensive gifts from men who ain't their husbands, blood relatives but marmar you have no choice especially when the gift is hidden inside a simple card.. And you only find out later when you get home the real gift

[AgentOfChaos]

Real men don't ask for it back.......I do kick her azz and take it back by force.

[AyeeyoH]

Nimanka somalida badankoodo saqajaanimada ma yaqaanan.Hadyada ugu qaalisan ee nin somali bixiya waa dahab...kaasana maalinta waraaqdada ku siiyo ba la iibsha.

They don't request the dahab back do they.. Speaking of Somali men and dahab I know of one incident where the husband and his 'family' swapped the wife's dahab to a cheaper set when they separated..

I do agree that females shouldn't accept expensive gifts from men who ain't their husbands, blood relatives but marmar you have no choice especially when the gift is hidden inside a simple card.. And you only find out later when you get home the real gift

If he gave you the dahab as meher and you're the one who asked for divorce, you must give it back.But if it was a gift it's urs...but i heard in some cases if the mother inlow give the bride dahab and later on the couple divorce..the bride waa inay dahabka islaanta oo celiso and many do that.

[BlackVelvet]

Mother in law?

So are you supposed to keep a catalogue of any gifts you get from him and his family "just in case"?

That is a headache. Rather not get or accept any gifts.

[AyeeyoH]

^^Ninka wuxu ku siiyey waad haysan karta..laakin islaamaha wa la iska ilaalya ishooda.Sodohooyenka qaar xita dahabka waxa laga yaaba inay amaah kugu so qaaden oo lacagta lagu leeyahy.Marka ninka hadaad iskufurtaan bilo gudahood islaanta waxeeda wa lo celiya.Personaly i would never accept so expensive gifts from the inlows...hadhoo markaad ninka kala tagtaan meelaha waxay ka dhahayaan waxaas oo hadyad ah naagta aan siinay ee lacagta ku burburinay baa inankaygi xumaysay.

[BlackVelvet]

In which case it would be easier to put such gifts away. In aad gabdhahaaga u niyeeysatid. "InshaAllah gabdhaha aad ayeyo u noqotid aya ku xarageysan donaan" do you think she'd get offended?

[MrPrestige]

Deeqa I am kidding. If my brothers don't I don't do it, one of my bro got engaged to this bird once , she became a emotional vampire , wanting him to stay with her for 24 hours. Long story short he divorced her ass before the wedding , he did not request for the meher money back , he said he was too good for it. Him not going through with the wedding did save him a lot of money though.

[zulaika]

even if the ex didnt ask return of pricey gift it would be in bad taste to keep it and flaunt it around the new man. sell it or trade it for something of similar value.

[QaaliDumar]

Nimanka somalida badankoodo saqajaanimada ma yaqaanan.Hadyada ugu qaalisan ee nin somali bixiya waa dahab...kaasana maalinta waraaqdada ku siiyo ba la iibsha.

They don't request the dahab back do they.. Speaking of Somali men and dahab I know of one incident where the husband and his 'family' swapped the wife's dahab to a cheaper set when they separated..

I do agree that females shouldn't accept expensive gifts from men who ain't their husbands, blood relatives but marmar you have no choice especially when the gift is hidden inside a simple card.. And you only find out later when you get home the real gift

If he gave you the dahab as meher and you're the one who asked for divorce, you must give it back.But if it was a gift it's urs...but i heard in some cases if the mother inlow give the bride dahab and later on the couple divorce..the bride waa inay dahabka islaanta oo celiso and many do that.

Ma xoogaygi intay cuneen ayay filayaan waxay i siiyeen inaan u cesho? Taasi sheeko aha!!

Horay uma maqal, dhaqana uma lihin.

[AyeeyoH]

^^Kama hadleyo dadka xoogaagi cunay ee isku raagey ...i'm talking about those who get divorced few months later.