hello!
My name is Zara, I'm 18 and live in canada. my mother is canadian (white) and my dad is Somali. I have never known my father and have been raised by my mother. I live in a part of canada where there aren't many Africans let alone Somalis so I don't understand much about the culture. So I was wondering if you guys could help me out!
I have been raised as a canadian, have only known our media, and have had pressure from peers, but I have remained a virgin. Now this is a sensitive subject and I am embarassed to speak of such things. But ever scince a young age I have naturally covered my body, and have seen it as hugely important to stay a virgin until mariage. I can't explain it to my friends but I see it as shameful and wrong..even though no one is stopping me, I have boys after me all the time, and I am confidant, I still refuse!
So here is the question... is this just me and my craziness, or is this some kind of innate Somali thing. Is being a virgin really important to Somali women and their families???
Also I am interested in finding my father and his family, because I believe a person can't truly belong to their future until they know their past! Would such things be an issue, would it be a sourse of pride... or would anyone give a care? (theoretically speaking, not that I want them to know my personal things of that nature) But perhaps it would be enough that I am a good, smart, fun person. And honestly say if they were to find out would they accept me more if I were a virgin? Also if I marry a somali man would it be important to him and his family??
Perhaps these are stupid questions and I know that things aren't so strict in cities and for families in the west but please tell me your opinions. I especially want to know what women think on this topic!
Thanks and have a good day
Zara