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How cautious is too cautious?

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How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 5:59 pm

I've known couples who spent five years together before getting married... and other couples who waited 1 month before a nikax. What do you think is an approriate amount of time to wait inbetween meeting somebody for the first time, and getting hitched? How about if you've already known the person but are only just starting to get to know them in this new way, would you wait the same amount of time?

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby The_Patriot » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:04 pm

dude its you to decide.
You can wait for 10 yrs if you want.

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby greenday » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:13 pm

LOOL@ "ila tali walaal" :lol: :lol:

I use to think 2 years plus lakiin as i get older i realise qofaa bari kubaroweyse bil kuma baratid.

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby eliteSomali » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:16 pm

You can always divorce. why do people make it seem like marriage is an irreversible contract?

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:21 pm

The_Patriot wrote:dude its you to decide.
You can wait for 10 yrs if you want.

So you dont think 1 month is unreasonable if it feels right? :lol: and how about waiting 6,7 years to get married? I think thats ridiculous. What are your upper limits that make you go "Only Xmonths? You're crazy!" or.. "You've been talking for Xyears, war inaa lillah, just is guursada ama is dhaafa."


greenday wrote:LOOL@ "ila tali walaal" :lol: :lol:

I use to think 2 years plus lakiin as i get older i realise qofaa bari kubaroweyse bil kuma baratid.


IKR lol, fobsite, why are you speaking korean?

eliteSomali wrote:You can always divorce. why do people make it seem like marriage is an irreversible contract?


:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby eliteSomali » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:25 pm

Your somali has immensely improved,nannes. You deserve a cookie.



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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby DisplacedDiraac » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:25 pm

I reckon anything longer then 6-8 months *a year maxx* is ridiculous.. How long does one need to get to know someone.. :|

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby greenday » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:27 pm

WestLdnShawty wrote:I reckon anything longer then 6-8 months *a year maxx* is ridiculous.. How long does one need to get to know someone.. :|


Say you meet someone but you are not ready for marriage in another 5 years maxa sameynee?


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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:29 pm

:lol: Elite thanks saxiib, but wouldnt some xalwa be a more appropriate gift than a cookie :? are ileen cilmaha mareeykaanka ku koreey wax ma kasayan.


WestLdnShawty wrote:I reckon anything longer then 6-8 months *a year maxx* is ridiculous.. How long does one need to get to know someone.. :|


So six months the original date of you ever meeting the guy is long enough to nikax/guur/ect? I think its not just a 'need to know' thing, but also a comfortability thing, like how long will it take for you to get comfortable with them being in your life before you take the next step.


Green :lol: abaayo, im jking but seriously you know my af somaali is shit, ii fasir nooh i want to understand what you said so i can understand you boo :rose:

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby waryaa » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:30 pm

It depends. In some relationships, dating a long time is not an issue. However, the problem arises when one of the two wants some action and the other plays abstinence card and says let's wait till we get married.

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:32 pm

waryaa wrote:It depends. In some relationships, dating a long time is not an issue. However, the problem arises when one of the two wants some action and the other plays abstinence card and says let's wait till we get married.


So you think you should wait until your legs start opening by themselves like somebody taped polar magnets to your thighs? :lol: what if you can both restrain yourself indefinitely, what then?

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby DisplacedDiraac » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:38 pm

greenday wrote:
WestLdnShawty wrote:I reckon anything longer then 6-8 months *a year maxx* is ridiculous.. How long does one need to get to know someone.. :|


Say you meet someone but you are not ready for marriage in another 5 years maxa sameynee?



Already happened and I kept it moving.. :| If its meant to be it'll be.



Nanees wrote:So six months the original date of you ever meeting the guy is long enough to nikax/guur/ect? I think its not just a 'need to know' thing, but also a comfortability thing, like how long will it take for you to get comfortable with them being in your life before you take the next step.


Yeah why not..
The thing with me is I lose interest easily.. Anything longer then a year is just crazy.
If I can see a future with the lad and I am comfortable around him why wait.. :|

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:39 pm

WestLdnShawty wrote:
greenday wrote:
WestLdnShawty wrote:I reckon anything longer then 6-8 months *a year maxx* is ridiculous.. How long does one need to get to know someone.. :|


Say you meet someone but you are not ready for marriage in another 5 years maxa sameynee?



Already happened and I kept it moving.. :| If its meant to be it'll be.



Nanees wrote:So six months the original date of you ever meeting the guy is long enough to nikax/guur/ect? I think its not just a 'need to know' thing, but also a comfortability thing, like how long will it take for you to get comfortable with them being in your life before you take the next step.


Yeah why not..
The thing with me is I lose interest easily.. Anything longer then a year is just crazy.
If I can see a future with the lad and I am comfortable around him why wait.. :|



:up: :up: :up: i agree, on the flip side then ,how soon is too soon?

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby DisplacedDiraac » Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:04 pm

That's a tricky question.. I guess it depends on the couple and how fast they are moving.
I know one lass who only knew her man for less then 2 months before they got hitched.. But they both knew they were interested in marriage from the get-go.
For me personally a month is just too soon.. :lol:

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Re: How cautious is too cautious?

Postby Nanees » Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:08 pm

WestLdnShawty wrote:That's a tricky question.. I guess it depends on the couple and how fast they are moving.
I know one lass who only knew her man for less then 2 months before they got hitched.. But they both knew they were interested in marriage from the get-go.
For me personally a month is just too soon.. :lol:


omg two months? :shock: wow mashaAllah, how high is their imaan subhanaAllah.

I like the way you think West, :lol:


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