Jazak-allah khair sis!
Which reminds me of this hadith on being kind to your kids.
Abu Hurayrah may Allaah be pleased with him who said:
"The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) kissed Al-Hasan once while Al-Aqra' Ibn Haabis was sitting with him, so Al-Aqra' said, 'I have ten children; never did I kiss any of them.' The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) therefore looked at him and said: 'Allaah will not be merciful with the one who is not merciful to others. " [Al-Bukhaari]
Which reminds me about Somliada and their bad dhaqan in terms of being kind. If you are kind person they'll call you 'Sufi' :-O and a man is somehow lacking if he is kind, like his manhood is questioned.
If you are a lady they'll say, 'Tan, waa baari,' that usually translates to, 'you can take advantage of her,'
What? She is being kind, she is not a mat to be walked all over.
Man that are kind to their wives, oh boy, then he has been bewitched!
( Muslim)
