Will I Be Forgiven for I have Sinned?

[Sensual_Lady]

Every night before i sleep i ask Allah for forgiveness for i have sinned againist everything i have ever been thought my whole life. I am in my early twenties. A Somali sister trying to make her parents proud. I am not bad a person, i still believe in helping others, being kind, respectful to parents and myself and most of all fearing Allah.

About a year and half ago, i met a man who i thought was everything i have ever wanted. I loved him with all my heart and i felt loved more than i have ever felt. When he asked me to marry him after only being together for six months i knew i found my prince charming. We met each other's families and they all approved of the marriage. He wanted to get married immediately but i wanted few months more. I thought it was only fair that he would give me the time since i was the one moving three thousand miles away. Giving up a job i worked very hard at and a family that i tressured more than anything.

To make a long story short, things started going sour and i found myself pregnant after few months of an unhappy relationship. We hadnt spoken for three weeks when i found out i was six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to be a mother and i thought the day i get pregnant would be the happiest moment of my life but i found it to be the worst.

When i spoke to him about it, he clearily indicated that he wasnt ready which pissed me off but it also hurt me in a way i can never heal.

Here i was, 22 still a college student, working to make ends meet and found myself pregnant. I was scared, confused and i didnt know who to talk to. Had my family known they would have killed me without a question. So i decided to keep to myself while i try and figure out what to do.

I looked at it from every angle and the only solution was to have an abortion. I couldnt bring a child with no father to family and ruin their name. I still wanted a family of my own and perhaps this was my prayer being answered and if that was the case why did my fiance turn his back on me? I didnt know what to do or who to ask advise for. So i got depressed, sick, and very sad. I sat and waited for him to come back for weeks. He didnt!

So i walked into a clinic and had an abortion two months ago. I was eight and half weeks pregnant. Till this day i have not forgiven myself for my actions. I am sad, i have lost my confidence, and i can not look at my mothers face. My so called ex fiance decided to come back a week after had the abortion to tell me he was sorry and that he was scared. He now wanted to marry me and have the baby. I told him he came a week too late.

Was this my faith? What have i done to deserve such punishment? Will i ever be forgiven?

I know what i have done is wrong. I took away a life and i have to live with myself for the rest of my life. I also didnt have a choice but i'm trying very hard to seek for forgiveness from Allah and i would really appericate your prayers.

This is the first time i have every opened up about this. I hope you dont think of me as a bad human being but instead a woman who lost her path and who believed in love but instead got betrayel.

Thank you

[SoMaLiSiZz]

Question :

you will be able to answer my question. I would like to know, besides repenting to Allah, is there a certain punishment a sister in Islam should receive for having an Abortion? And,if so, who carries out the punishment?


Answer :

Praise be to Allaah.

She has to repent for deliberately aborting her pregnanacy after it had been created, because aborting it is haraam and is not allowed. Once pregnancy is known, it has to be protected and it is haraam for the mother to harm it in any way, because it is a trust which Allaah has placed in her womb, and it has rights. So it is not permitted to treat it badly or to abort it.

Shaykh al-Fawzaan said: if the soul has been breathed into the foetus and it has started to move, then the woman aborts it after that and it dies, then she is considered to have killed a soul and she is obliged to offer the kafaarah (expiation), which is freeing a slave. If she cannot do that, then she has to fast for two consecutive months and repent to Allaah. That is if the pregnancy was over four months, because in that case the soul has been breathed into it. So if she aborts it after that time, then she has to offer kafaarah as we have menioned. This is a serious matter and it is not permissible to take it lightly. And Allaah knows best.
See al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 3/1052


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[SoMaLiSiZz]

You have committed a great sin and you should carry this pain with you that you have killed a human throw out your life and you must make towbah. Note the conditions of making tobah is Stop from doing the same mistake > cry for life as long as you live every time you remember this and ask Allah to forgive you >> never ever ever do this horrific mistake every again .

Remember feeling bad about it reminds you of making tobah its not a one time deal its something you have to do until the day you die..

And also remember the most important point Allah the al mightiest Forgiveness is much more then his anger... remember also the devil want’s you to feel hopeless and only the non-believers feels hopelessness we are Muslims >>> they day we start feeling hopeless is the day we loose our faith in Allah (acuzubeallah ) >> DO NOT FALL INTO THE DEVILS TRAPS >> as longs as you live there is much hope for u just repent to Allah and take this seriously >> best of luck >>


Fe Aman Allah >> may Allah help you and be happy with you >> W asalam calikom warxmatuallah Wbaraktuh

[SoMaLiSiZz]

Ps, if you want to find true happiness adhere the Quran and Sunnah, cut off bad relations, wear hejab, pray 5 fard prayers, if u listen to music STOP doing so, stay away from all sorts of drugs + alcohol >> fear Allah on every step of ur life that makes you stay away from sins if you are conscious that Allah is all seen and all knowing >> Pray night prayer this helps a lot > obey Allah and his Rasool (PBUH).


If u need any of my help just PM insha*Allah

yalla fe Aman Allah

[Steeler [Crawler2]]

If you want to find true happiness do not listen to a word this judgemental 'woman' says.

(NB:Big Brother is watching you MAD MAC--MUHAAAHHAA )

[_BuFF_GYAL_]

^ subxanalla... wats tha need for the hostility bro?? nehooo

raa i am lost for words i dnt usually come into his forum but wallahi its real intretsing to see wat users pst subxanalla .. to the gal who made this post its was a real shock to read that but by the wil of Allah cazawajal evrything wud be aite inshallah as the sister above said continualsy make twba n HAVE FAITH N TRUST IN ALLAH CAZAWAJAL.. n Allah knows best...


bless

[Steeler [Crawler2]]

I MAD MAC am not a man


Wonder who the negro is who changed this. Must have been that fock Aiman, who has now lost his priveledges because he is a piece of shit.

[premium411]

^^^ there really was no need for that comment whatsoever

for the concernd sister follow the link the other sister has given you and inshalla that will answer your questions also good luck and remeber its bad stuff that happens to good people ..Allah swt is very merciful indeed

[same]

[Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for God forgives all sins] Qur'an.
Repent and god will forgive you all your past.

[Abassey]

Assalaamu aleykum? How are you, my sweet sister? I hope you are ok. Well, it is very humiliating and hurting to have undergone this great problem but just know this: problems are part and parcel of life. Life is NEVER bed of roses, it is about ups and downs, offs and ons. Howevr, all this should only serve to strnethen your resolve towrads a better and sweeter life. That said, I would like to add a few things.
To begin with, you should NEVER lose hope; the worst thing thatt can happen to someone is being desperate. Allah (s.w.) is MOST forgiving, afterall, didn't he forgive a man who killed 100 persons? Sweet sister, stop looking bad, leave the past aside and go forward. Regret from the sin, repent and Allah will forgive you, inshaaAllah. Mine is to tell you, that you are good, you are sweet, that life lies aahead, the past is nothing. Move forward, Islam needs you and we can't affford to lose you, NO. Realise that you are very essential. That the past is nothing. Remember this, that the bitterness of the past can blur our vision of tomorrow's reality, forget the pas and move on, cry becasue you sinned but not that your life is ruined, NO. And what you have cried so far is enough. So, stop. Move on, repent and do good deeds. Remember taht good deeds cancel the bad ones. You should also note that what happens to you in life should act as a lesson to you. Learn from the past and leave it there, move on.
Secondly, and this goes to that inhuman guy. He should know that sooner or later, he will pay for his sadistic acts. He HAS TO pay. NO, you can't just be a sadist and then go scot-free, Allah (s.w.) will make you pay for it.
My final words: InshaaAllah, Allah will forgive you. The past is nohthing to go by, life will just begin now. You are so good and important, you are NEVER bad. I ask Allah (s.w.) to guide, guard and bless us all. Sorry for having written a lot.

[Nagin]

Salaam aleykum ...

You know just ask for forgiveness to Allah (swt)...

Subhaan allah

[Gacalisa]

with great repentance, Insha Allah you will be forgiven. but allahu aclam.

[Steeler [Crawler2]]

And this is a lesson for all you men out there who don't own up to your responsibilities and put women in this kind of shitty position where they are forced to make these kinds of choices. If you get a woman pregnant, be a stand up guy and do the right thing. Raising a kid is a lot of work, and if it's your kid, you should be willing to help shoulder the load.

[Qumanyoo]

Ma heart goes out too laakin follow what the others have said...(apart from MadMac)
you seem to be a good person...its not your fault, u did what felt right...dont let it get u down too much walaal.

[Life_Death]

Some people should be banned from this forum.....Please don't give advice if you don't know what you're saying

At the begining of each and every surah but one....we say the following words

“ In the name of Allah, the beneficent the merciful"

Allah says in surah Al-zumar ayah 53 "Say: O my slaves who have transgressed against themselves! Despair not for the mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. truly he is oft forgiving, most merciful."

The word Tawbah (Repentance) in Arabic literally means 'to return'. In an Islamic context, it refers to the act of leaving what Allah has prohibited and returning to what He has commanded.

Allah says in Surah al-nur ayah 31: "and turn you all together in repentance to Allah O believers, that you may be successful"

In Surah al-Baqarah ayah 222, Allah tells the believers: "Surely Allah loves those who turn unto him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves."

Allah says to the believers in a Hadith –ul-Qudsi.

“O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me, and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it.”

The prophet peace be upon him said: ""One who repents from sin is like one without sin."

To receive forgiveness from Allah there are three requirements:

1. Recognizing the offense itself and its admission before God.
2. Making a commitment not to repeat the offense.
3. Asking for forgiveness from God.

There are no particular words to say for asking forgiveness. However, Muslims are taught many phrases and words to keep repeating daily asking God's forgiveness. For example:

Astaghfiru-Allah, which means "I ask forgiveness from Allah"

Subhanaka-Allah humma wa bi hamdika wa ash-hadu al la Ilaha illa Anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilayk, which means "Glory be to You, Allah, and with You Praise (thanks) and I bear witness that there is no deity but You, I ask Your forgiveness and I return to You (in obedience)".

I leave you with my final comments....Everything in life happens solely beacause it is part of the plan that allah has for you.....we all face hard times in our lives, it's just a matter of how you deal with them.

My father used to always say, "the deeper the cut the stronger the tissue that grows on the wound"......

Pray that allah forgives you and hope that he does.....

CANNON