---Gedo, saalam, adiga is dhaga tirya more then me walal, your heroic notion I’v already approached twice, first advo mentioned and I said lets watch and see how China act in there population issue. I can’t make a judgment on that or say that it is a valid reason for polygamy (what if it was the other way around, as it is with China), there are no reasons in the Source, just a condition ‘just’ and the context. That’s all I wanted to mention before you jump the wagon and claim it’s a right; and claiming a rational behind it.
So its predicted that men will outnumber women to a great extent…you think that polygamy is an answer; ok fair enough, I have a problem when you use it as justification for men to satisfy their thirst. That’s all.
I acknowledge that there will be situations that demand a change of marriage structure. But I must stress that it’s a gift for very special occasions, Allah (SA) discourages it, so its not a practise to be proud of. Let me give the example of divorce, its hated by Allah but at times it’s a blessing, so we should avoid it at all cost, unless the situation demands it.
I brought up the female promiscuity as an example that this society is sick and its not just men that are cable of infidelity, so therefore to say men should be allowed more then one wife because it makes their promiscuity ‘halal’ (since its there nature??), that is mistreatment and abuse of polygamy. If that was the case then why not allow women to practise it after all they’d be just and satisfied right?
Instead of advocating polygamy as an answer to men’s promiscuity and level of desire, you should be arguing for the opposite, teach them to fast and learn to discipline themselves. They should draw closer to Allah and fear the hereafter rather then preoccupying their time and space on chasing their ego.
‘Also, you haven't addressed the different requirements in a relationship between a man and a woman. The needs in a relationship for a man are more base or physical whereas the needs for a woman are physical to a lesser extent, and more emotional & psychological.’
What exactly do you mean by this sentence? So? Btw this is open to discussion but lets assume you position, how does polygamy come into it? Are you degrading a wife’s position, saying she can’t please her husband in all matters and therefore he needs to look else where? If this is where this conversation is going, I suggest you think really careful from now on
, your desire orientated argument was bad enough imkanaa waa the wife’s fault?
Yes it’s a khar that it produces large families, but do we really need that today, I mean come on the world is already over populated and plus there so many orphans, go practise that sunnah of the Prophet and adopt. Have you ever considered the psychological effects it has on women, especially in today’s context where individuality and love relationships is emphasised? (I am thinking of basing my research on this ).
Have you ever considered how it degrades women and makes them feel replaceable object, or someone who can’t please her husband?
Have you seen the way culture abuses it? Especially cultures that already believe men are superior?
Have you seen the amount of men that that marry young girls, ones they could easily father? Whats the effect of that on his children around the same age?
The list is endless, I’v even heard that some men use it as competitive tool, set the wives against each other in pleasing him….
Example: 'If she's a Drama Queen then I know how to make her behave'...lol
