CoHabitation On the Rise Among Somalis

[AbdiWahab252]

I am beginning to see an increase of Somali couples living together before marriage. What are the advantages or disadvantages to this ?

[zulaika]

advantages:
u get a feel for what the other person's really like...u never truly know someone unless u live with them.

disadvantages:
u garner the wrath of Allah.

[Shirib]

Somali society shoukd never accept it

[AbdiWahab252]

[quote="zulaika"]disadvantages:
u garner the wrath of Allah.[/quote]

Zulaika,

Well spoken.

[Twisted_Logic]

[quote="zulaika"]advantages:
u get a feel for what the other person's really like...u never truly know someone unless u live with them.

disadvantages:
u garner the wrath of Allah.[/quote]

This what I call being level-head! :)

[AbdiWahab252]

Twisted,

here here !

[kambuli]

As long as there is nikaax it is ok.... I know few couples who decided to live together before their wedding...But they were engaged(nikaax) legaly...

Sometimes we mix up with a custom and a religion....Religiously your wife becomes Xalaal for you the date she is engaged to you....

[Starscream]

[quote="kambuli"]Religiously your wife becomes Xalaal for you the date she is engaged to you....[/quote]


forreal? because what if u decide not to go through with the wedding and got her pregnant and everything? we will get jamaican situations sister.

[AbdiWahab252]

Kambuli,

Does a woman/man have to mention if they have ever had another nikaax if they divorce each other and are going to marry someone else ?

[Shirib]

[quote="kambuli"]As long as there is nikaax it is ok.... I know few couples who decided to live together before their wedding...But they were engaged(nikaax) legaly...

Sometimes we mix up with a custom and a religion....Religiously your wife becomes Xalaal for you the date she is engaged to you....[/quote]

Nikaax is married, the little thing at night is just a celebration, but u are married when the nikaax happens.

[kambuli]

Shirib,

I know walaal...But remember in our culture even though the nikaax is done, men were not allowed to to touch their wife before the Wedding(Celebration)...And it so happened that some men may go to Zinna even though they had a Xalal wife sitting somewhere waiting for the La la la and stuff!

[Voltage]

All he ever talks about is welfare and whatever sexual-based accommodations he fantasizes about. Get a fockin life loser

[Shirib]

[quote="kambuli"]Shirib,

I know walaal...But remember in our culture even though the nikaax is done, men were not allowed to to touch their wife before the Wedding(Celebration)...And it so happened that some men may go to Zinna even though they had a Xalal wife sitting somewhere waiting for the La la la and stuff![/quote]

Didn't know that

[kambuli]

Satarscream quote " forreal? because what if u decide not to go through with the wedding and got her pregnant and everything? we will get jamaican situations sister."


Religiously walaal, she is your wife as soon as the Nikaax takes place...
But in order to avoid situation you just described, that is why most of the time the wedding is done right after the nikaax...Usually within the same week..

A/W,

I believe you have to declare that you had a previous nikaax before proceeding with a new one...

[Koronto91]

[quote="kambuli"]As long as there is nikaax it is ok.... I know few couples who decided to live together before their wedding...But they were engaged(nikaax) legaly...

Sometimes we mix up with a custom and a religion....Religiously your wife becomes Xalaal for you the date she is engaged to you....[/quote]

What kinda nikaax are we talking about here? Not the khutbo siraad mambo jambo Somalis love I hope.