being friends with bad people who are good to u

[zulaika]

got any bad friends..in terms of aqlaaq?

not all of my friends are perfect angels..in fact few are leading a really bad life. i've heard plenty of "u are the company u keep"...but i would definitely part company with that logic because...u can be good and have friends who are not good to themselves..spiritually, socially and financially..but are very very nice to u and want to continue being your friend. in this case, the best thing to do is to lead by example..be the good one, show them and hopefully u can convince them. to change their life.

[gurey25]

what if you dont have to make choices.

I have wadaad friends that i spend time with once in a while discussing religion and praying together, usually fridays.

i also have some that depraved, pshychotic and immoral

and the rest in between.

[The Gunners]

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[Lil_Cutie..]

[quote="zulaika"]got any bad friends..in terms of aqlaaq?

not all of my friends are perfect angels..in fact few are leading a really bad life. i've heard plenty of "u are the company u keep"...but i would definitely part company with that logic because...u can be good and have friends who are not good to themselves..spiritually, socially and financially..but are very very nice to u and want to continue being your friend. in this case, the best thing to do is to lead by example.. be the good one, show them and hopefully u can convince them. to change their life.[/quote]


Well Said.
What your mere presence may be a humble thing for them InshaAllah. You must pay particular attention to those that Do end up changing thier ways and spend more time with them in the hope that they will not fallback, just a simple temptation or a simple few days without talking to them may led them back to much worse than they used to be. SubhanAllah I've seen it happen.

[Basra-]

[quote="zulaika"]in this case, the best thing to do is to lead by example..be the good one, show them and hopefully u can convince them. to change their life.[/quote]






Oh please! zuli give us a break! Nacalaa tulaa aleiq! I detest fraudulent hypocrisy walaahi! Lets face it, u r friends with them because they make u feel good. Admit it, and lets congratulate each other, will ya!

[ms.nalia]

I dont beleive that you are your company speech at all. It may apply to some, but I dont think its the rule. I have friends that are mashallah very religious and kind hearted and I have friends that drink n smoke (non-muslim) and I dont care how they lead their life. It doesnt affect me. I love my friends because I love their spirit, regardless of wheather I agree with them or not, they have ALWAYS been there for me and have never let me down.

[Hyperactive]

my friends are from my circle
masjid and school.
if person was good and was close friend
if he lost his path
i wont keep the friendship.
there's nothing in common between us then
what's the point being friends then?

[Gifted]

People can influence you whether you like it or not. Its best to keep your distance, but not to judge.

[Caashaqa]

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Well Nigga Move Around Then

[surrender]

got any bad friends..in terms of aqlaaq?

not all of my friends are perfect angels..in fact few are leading a really bad life. i've heard plenty of "u are the company u keep"...but i would definitely part company with that logic because...u can be good and have friends who are not good to themselves..spiritually, socially and financially..but are very very nice to u and want to continue being your friend. in this case, the best thing to do is to lead by example..be the good one, show them and hopefully u can convince them. to change their life.

zulayka i agree with you. for example i have these friends i known since like 10year now. they not good interms of religion. dont think they pray, cover themselves and everything else-religous wise. but
some of them have heart of gold. sweet hearts they are. love them to bits. but i gotta admit sometimes i can help wondering if im good myself or bad because of the "u are the company u keep" which prophet muhhamed (scw) said. and it makes me wonder, what if all my good deeds are wasted because of me be-friending with these people but then the min i see them. i feel they are worth every minute of my time. love them to bits.

[PINK_BUNNY]

No, I don't have bad friends. In fact I'd rather not be seen talkin wid ppl like that, I like 2 keep my distance. I like hangin wid ppl like me, strict n conservative. For nonmuslims its different, I make the exception but I don't befriend fcked up Muslims......In fact I'd rather not befriend some1 wid fcked up friends......That's just how I am.

[zulaika]

lil_cutie,

i know, whenever i'm around them and they ask me, u wanna go out tonight to the club, i respectfully decline and suggest other things...that is my way of keeping them and me from dambi.


basra,

naa nacalada naga daa...nacalaa sheytanka kusaaran ku yaalee.


mis.nalia,

huuno, i don't keep gaalo friends first of all...i'm talking about muslim friends here. and even at that, i have limits to how non-religious they are...Lord knows i'm not perfect myself in terms of diin, but i have the appetite to wanna improve na'mean?? and the friends i'm talking about are not too extreme in their non-religious ways..like for instance, i will never be friends with a muslim who drinks and is proud of it, nor will i ever be friends with qowmu-luuud folks..never never never.


heyper,

if your friends lost their path...it is your responsibility to help them get right back on it...good muslims are good in character and strive to improve the character of those around them.


gifted,

true..but to a certain point though..at the end of the day, u are the captain of your ship. and yes i do agree to keep your distance where u see no hope.


surrender,

help them be good, just as much as u are helping yourself be good.

[Alchemist]

True, but you can never get too close to them.. It also depends on how bad they are..

With me one by one i have lost all contacts with the bad friends i had because in the end your either going to influence them or they will influence you..

[Hyperactive]

zalaikha i help who wants to help themself
i pass their houses and knock the door when i don't see them in the masjid.
few times i had to wake them up and wait to walk to the masjid
i was late.
my father punished me for that.
i don't need some one to pull me down
i want some friend to lift me.
im a teenager my self and a lot of things
distracts me from my own.
i have to scare for my self.

[PINK_BUNNY]

zulayka i agree with you. for example i have these friends i known since like 10year now. they not good interms of religion. dont think they pray, cover themselves and everything else-religous wise. but
some of them have heart of gold. sweet hearts they are. love them to bits. but i gotta admit sometimes i can help wondering if im good myself or bad because of the "u are the company u keep" which prophet muhhamed (scw) said. and it makes me wonder, what if all my good deeds are wasted because of me be-friending with these people but then the min i see them. i feel they are worth every minute of my time. love them to bits.

See ur right the prophet did say that and he didn't keep bad company. Isn't it true on judgment day ur raised wid the ppl u surrounded urself wid on earth?