The men have legit reasons. Think about it, the newly wife arrived in the West and before you know it, she is already thought all kinds of ways to do bahdilaad to the man. An old geezer like yourself who have no other occupation but has learned the art of "breaking down" marriages would come arround and give the newly arrived wife a cruch course on everything related to woman's rights and what not. After the induction course on "Orgaco Group" (The name for woman gangs that help each other against men), she will have access to her own social case worker, she will have a quick guide to government offices for woman and she will even be given the private number for the Minister for Woman's Affairs.
What happens to the man who spent huge sums of money on her marriage? And then took the backbreaking job to bring her to the West and then finds himself surrounded by "Orgaco Nagood" breathing behind his neck.
So, in essense, a long distance marriage is not a luxury but a necessity and its better than a complete break down to the marriage.