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Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:11 pm**

Haddad wrote:
Ismahan123 wrote:THis topic should be deleted.
Some edbin doesn't hurt.

Aheey, mid aa abuse-garaysid ilahaay ka ku sahlo marka. :arrow:

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:11 pm**

am i allowed to hit her with a tv

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:14 pm**

We got a bunch of women abusers around here. :down:

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:15 pm**

Captain24 wrote:I hate to do it, but I'd slap her around if she steps out of the line

If you 'hate' to do it, then, you shouldn't walaal. No ifs or buts.

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:17 pm**

Firefly

What about this, do you agree or disagree with this shieck? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wp3Eam5F ... re=related

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:26 pm**

I would divorce that nigga! :twisted:

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:30 pm**

Ismahan123 wrote:
Haddad wrote:
Ismahan123 wrote:THis topic should be deleted.
Some edbin doesn't hurt.

Aheey, mid aa abuse-garaysid ilahaay ka ku sahlo marka.

You wouldn't tolerate some dhirbaaxo?

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:32 pm**

RebelLion wrote:Firefly

What about this, do you agree or disagree with this shieck? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wp3Eam5F ... re=related

I agree with the following points:-

" The wife is not his merchandise, he can not do whatever he wants to her"
"Even if the wife forgives the husband, it does not mean that Allah (swt) will forgive him on the Day of Judgment" (That's if he strikes her in the face, or causes her considerable injury thus violating the Law set down by Allah (swt)

As I understand it striking the wife is a LAST resort, he must talk to her first, then refuse to share the bed with her etc. The sheikh also mentioned that he cannot bruise her or strike her in the face. Anyhow, it is a very sensitive subject and not something to be joked about. Great care should be taken, Insha-Allah.

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:32 pm**

if you've to beat her, then you've already failed. :down:

they should fear you to point where you don't have to beat them. :twisted:

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:36 pm**

Kolombo wrote:
Minneapolis Mayor wrote:As long as you don't break her bones or make her bleed. The quran says" wadribuuhuna daraban khayral mubarix" beat her a beating that does not hurm her badly. some little indha guduudis is ok too.

Now, this is where I draw the line. That verse is probably one of the most misinterpreted verses in the Qur'an. It only applies to if the woman fails to obey the husband regarding her Islamic duties e.g. if she refuses to pray or cover. This is a last resort, first you must talk to her, then scold her, leave her bed, etc. then lastly you strike her. The Prophet (saw) was asked "Strike her with what?" He responded "With a Siwak and only on her hands & feet." What is a Siwak? Cadey Soomaali and only gently. It doesn't say to beat the poor woman in the sense we know it as.

Salaam, can you reference this part please, only I'v come across a complete difference reason,..

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 7:01 pm**

Firefly wrote:
RebelLion wrote:Firefly

What about this, do you agree or disagree with this shieck? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wp3Eam5F ... re=related

I agree with the following points:-

" The wife is not his merchandise, he can not do whatever he wants to her"
"Even if the wife forgives the husband, it does not mean that Allah (swt) will forgive him on the Day of Judgment" (That's if he strikes her in the face, or causes her considerable injury thus violating the Law set down by Allah (swt)

As I understand it striking the wife is a LAST resort, he must talk to her first, then refuse to share the bed with her etc. The sheikh also mentioned that he cannot bruise her or strike her in the face. Anyhow, it is a very sensitive subject and not something to be joked about. Great care should be taken, Insha-Allah.

True.

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 7:03 pm**

Advo wrote:am i allowed to hit her with a tv

Remote yes, tv noooooo :lol:

Posted: **Thu Sep 18, 2008 7:04 pm**

+chilli,

"As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means of annoyance. Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great"

{al-Nisa 4:34}

The scholars agree "ill-conduct" reffers to her neglecting her Islamic duties. It doesn't apply to a woman who refuses to cook for her husband or clean for him, since there is no Islamic literature which proves this.