Meher

[BaasAbuur]

What is a reasonable amount to give for meher? Ladies, how much would you ask for in meher?

[Goljano Lion]

What is a reasonable amount to give for meher? Ladies, how much would you ask for in meher?

i guess you mean gabaati, if it is meher, she will have to come up with amount and if it is acceptable to you, then you accept, otherwise tell her politely , lady your meher is too much

[AbdiWahab252]

Baasbur,

Limit it to no more than $1,500. Plus another $800 in sooriyo. $1,500 for the luncheon. $200 for the wadaad. $1,000 for the shashsar and voila you are at $5,000.

Any unreasoble meher is a bode of what is to come. Make sure you do a private nikaax (immediate families only) discuss the meher ahead of time with her and if she changes her mind without letting you know, do a Abdi Bile out of there.

Good luck on your first marriage.

[AbdiWahab252]

Goljano,

Seedi, why negotiate. Never be pressured into paying too much. This adeer of yours told me once,(best advice I ever heard): "HAblaha aad lo ma jeceelado"

[Dhaga Bacayl]

Abdi<

LOL@hablaha aad looma jeclaado.

This other oday once said to his newly wed nephew. "Adeer dumarku way cilada badan yihiine makhsin gooniya ka samayso"

[Goljano Lion]

Goljano,

Seedi, why negotiate. Never be pressured into paying too much. This adeer of yours told me once,(best advice I ever heard): "HAblaha aad lo ma jeceelado"

well said and Ramadaan kariim AbdiWahab252

[BaasAbuur]

Baasbur,

Limit it to no more than $1,500. Plus another $800 in sooriyo. $1,500 for the luncheon. $200 for the wadaad. $1,000 for the shashsar and voila you are at $5,000.

Any unreasoble meher is a bode of what is to come. Make sure you do a private nikaax (immediate families only) discuss the meher ahead of time with her and if she changes her mind without letting you know, do a Abdi Bile out of there.

Good luck on your first marriage.

You have the whole thing planned. That is awesome. Say the girl is extremely beautiful, college educated, and overall a perfect wife material. She still gets $15,00? By the way, my brother always says the same thing as you; never pay more than a G.

Goljano, maybe I did not phrase my question correctly. I wanted to know what is a reasonable amount for a girl to ask for in meher.

[AbdiWahab252]

Dhaga & Goljano,

I was having afuur with a good friend of mine who chastised me for not getting married. He goes I have been married 4 times and never spent more than $1,000 each time. He told me just to go for it and not too sweat it too much after all, women are plenty and if one no longer likes you, she can be replaced or co-wifed very easily.

[Dhaga Bacayl]

Abdow waxaa xagayaga lagam yaqaan. Idinku gaangiistariin baad tihiin.

We get married once and spend alot in our wife to be and her wedding....

I guess we're suckers for love.

[AbdiWahab252]

Baasbur,

Saxiib, a smart woman will not be greedy because she knows that she can milk 20 times the meher out of you during the marriage. A dumb woman is greedy and asks for a lot. My friend tells me that you can get out of paying meher by just refusing to divorce her until she forgives you of the amount.

$1,000-$1,500 is reasonable even if she went to Harvard or looks very attractive. IF she is educated, she should appreciate your good qualities because saxiib, these Taxiile guys outclass us by having more cash in the bank (caydh, section8 jiif, etc).

[AbdiWahab252]

Abdow waxaa xagayaga lagam yaqaan. Idinku gaangiistariin baad tihiin.

We get married once and spend alot in our wife to be and her wedding....

I guess we're suckers for love.

Warya, gabdha wa ka washiitin: lacag, aroos weyn, ii tuus tuus, niman yahow, siciriir barar ba sameeysiin.

My budget is no more than $5,000. Take it or leave it is what I will tell her. Aabe wa nin wadaad oo aroos weyn rabiin.

[Goljano Lion]

Dhaga & Goljano,

I was having afuur with a good friend of mine who chastised me for not getting married. He goes I have been married 4 times and never spent more than $1,000 each time. He told me just to go for it and not too sweat it too much after all, women are plenty and if one no longer likes you, she can be replaced or co-wifed very easily.

Waar

think your wife as long tern investment, not cheap investment like your friend who paid $1000, when you spend a lot money on your wife, you wouldn't like to lose that investment, so you will be nice to her , be more tolerant, sidaa ciyaalkan waad u dul qadaan

[Amethyst]

Momma aint raised no fool. Naag nin waxna ugu fadhin is just as easily discardable. Set it up real high, then gradually come down something reasonable. And if he leaves, dee ilaah baa ku dhaafsiiye mid gudur oo gacan adag!

[AbdiWahab252]

Goljano,

Spend a lot will not convince you to stay. Its total bullcrap told by women. I love money but I love my pride and comfort more than money.

[Dhaga Bacayl]

Abdow waxaa xagayaga lagam yaqaan. Idinku gaangiistariin baad tihiin.

We get married once and spend alot in our wife to be and her wedding....

I guess we're suckers for love.

Warya, gabdha wa ka washiitin: lacag, aroos weyn, ii tuus tuus, niman yahow, siciriir barar ba sameeysiin.

My budget is no more than $5,000. Take it or leave it is what I will tell her. Aabe wa nin wadaad oo aroos weyn rabiin.

Aabo waa wadaad oo aroos weyn rabiin.

What is your secret guys? Show the goods before hand?

Waar anaga saaxiib waanu da'naa sida roobka.....