Source: mensnewsdaily
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
By Amy Alkon
Just posted another Advice Goddess column -- for a woman who doesn't understand why a guy she's got a crush on, but who she's given nary a signal of it to, hasn't pursued her. An excerpt:
Although you're utterly overwhelmed by the prospect of rejection, you seem to think it's easy for guys, that they just say to themselves, "Oh, look! It's human and wearing a bra. I think I'll ask it out!" Unless you're stunning -- in which case, all you have to do is exist in a guy's eyeline -- you need to let him know you're open for business; specifically, his. But, you don't just march up and blurt out "I like you. Do you like me?" -- which is about as alluring as "Drop by some afternoon so I can give you genital herpes."
Asking a guy out is another lousy idea. Men will tell you they're fine with it -- just as they're subconsciously knocking you from an 8 to a 3.6 for doing it. Because sex is more costly for a woman -- potentially leading to nine months of pregnancy, then a kid to drag around -- women evolved to be the choosier sex and men evolved to value choosy women, and to apply to be chosen. This isn't to say all the work should be left to men. It's your job to flirt with a guy, signaling that if he asked you out, you wouldn't scream "Rape!", fall on the floor laughing, or report him to Human Resources and have him demoted to crossing guard.
