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I was talking about meher guys, laakin still waa ceeb, you don't even have a home, uurkaa waa maxay.

Majority of the marraiges that I have seen thus far happen because of unplanned uur.

Dadka qaarkood diinta waa aaminsan yihiin hase yeeshee aaminaadaasi ma ahan mid meel mar ah. Waa iska aaminaad ku sallaysan ama aan dhaafsiisneyn afka baarkiisa. Macnaha, xaallad kasta oo ay tahay inay wajahaan waxay ku dabaqaan hadba sidii la gudboon iyagoo inta badan is ilawsiinaya xilkii ka saarnaa hawllaha diinta. Sababtaas ayaa keentay baan fillayaa in naag uur lihi u soo fariisato meher. Iyada, kan mehersanaya, iyo midka meherinaya--haddiiba ay dhacdo-- sow markaas lama oran karo waa dad Adduunyo?

this is called wacal xalaalays.

Helwaa is right to expose any breaches against our diin and dhaqan, she didn't name or shame any1.

Ka Darag

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HELWAA wrote:Naag uur leh sidu meher oo qaban kara..?..bal su'aasha ka jawaaba.

Dadkeeno diinta maanay aqoon mise way is yeelyeelayan?

ninka aroosanaya ma isagaa naagta caloosha u buuxshay? in that case he should take care of his baby moma

whats the difference between mehar n emgegement? I thougit they wre the sme?
Pregnent girls are married off these days it became a nor in our society. i went 2 awedding wre the girl was pregnent her aunties kept on makin it bate by holdin the diric away from her stomach the whole night, and the whole hall was talkin about her is like they all cme 2the wedding jst 2 c her calol.

HELWAA wrote:Naag uur leh sidu meher oo qaban kara..?..bal su'aasha ka jawaaba.

Dadkeeno diinta maanay aqoon mise way is yeelyeelayan?

Your shock and disgust aside, what did you expect them to do? Demand lashes or ask to be stoned?

suga_delic wrote:whats the difference between mehar n emgegement? I thougit they wre the sme?
Pregnent girls are married off these days it became a nor in our society. i went 2 awedding wre the girl was pregnent her aunties kept on makin it bate by holdin the diric away from her stomach the whole night, and the whole hall was talkin about her is like they all cme 2the wedding jst 2 c her calol.

Engagement is a verbal agreement.

"Hey you wanna get married?"

"Yeah! Lolz"

"K, lets do it! heheheehe"

Meheris when you have the Shaykh, the witnesses and the niikax ceremony. Thats when a contract is stipulated, the gift for the girl is agreed upon (usually $$$) and after its over, they are married. But some people see it as ceeb if said couple is already gettin' down after the niikax, which doesn't make sense because in the eyes of Allah, they are already married... and they probably already went to the county/state and got a marriage contract from there too (tax relief). I think like Nabeela said, maybe they don't have their own home or whatever so its seen as ceeb.

The Aroos is just an excuse to have a party and entertainment.

Thats Somali Guur 101 for you.

Warya Galjecelboi, gabadha ka har

Helwa's the female version of me. Keep exposing

Dhaga Bacayl wrote:

Nabeela wrote:What if the couple are engaged but no official aqal gal? I have seen that happen, this girl gave birth 5 month after the wedding, but the key word here is engaged.

Engage or Meher? Engage doesn't count but Meher is valid. Their is no need to wait your wedding night after MEHER...wax walba waa xalaal.

I think HELWAA is talking about getting knocked up before Nikaax aka Meher.

Exactly...anigu waxaan ka hadlaya naag uur yeelatay iyada oo bila meher ah

JaMaaL-23 wrote:this is called wacal xalaalays.

Helwaa is right to expose any breaches against our diin and dhaqan, she didn't name or shame any1.

Ka Darag

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well meshan ahlo zina ayaa ka buuxa...runta ayey ka xanaaqan.

HELWAA wrote:Naag uur leh sidu meher oo qaban kara..?..bal su'aasha ka jawaaba.

Dadkeeno diinta maanay aqoon mise way is yeelyeelayan?

helwaa,

i know this girl who got pregnant by her boyfriend. she was the type of xalimo who was "good girl" oo jaamacad qabata and had a good reputation, so naturally she was panicking after finding out she was pregnant and was rushing to get married to the farax who knocked her up ...her family pressured the faraxs family to front the wedding money since its "all his fault". his family was like....excuse me, u the one with the ticking belly time bomb so u better cover the cost of the wedding yourself plus find a home for them to live since his only a poor uni student and don't have a job etc..

the girl's mother ran around like a chicken without a head looking for hegbad to come up with the cash quickly..

all this trouble to "cover up" instead of facing the problem head on...

long story short... the couple divorced months after their son was born.

Inaalilaah zuleekha... ..soomalidu iyaga kala baqda intey ilaahy ka biqiy lahayeen.women should keep their legs closed and never listen to moron who says...(dee wan ku guursanayaay ee bal in yar ii dhiib)..oldest trick in the book.Inan kasta inay tiraah waye waad ii rabta soo maaha..maxad is la haysa yaa cami. ..aabahy oo tag.

walle dhaqanka iyo diinta laga tag

i feel sorry for the caruurta born out of wedlock. Its not their fault but its shameless

why is everyone acting like this is new to us,,it used to happen alot in somalia specially markay familka gabadha ay wiilka xujeeyaan asagana gabadha ayuu uur u yeelayaa and then familka ayaga ayaa gabahdah lasoo cararaayo oo u aqal keenayo for free.

and also we used to have something called masaafo,,gabar layska kaxaysto ayada oo familkeeda ogeyn oo dhawr bilood lasyka soo haysto kadibna reerka loo yimaado xaalmarin loo keeno.