what is the wedding like ?

[Adanna]

I saw a videotape of it. They had warran and stuff. And they walked around their hud/aqal somali. They slaughtered animals and so on. Ask ur granny nooh.

Gabar iyo caano.

[suga_n_spice]

BALOO

weddings over there are probably a lot cheaper!!!

[beauty_babe]

lot cheaper yh, and more cultured based

[Sir-Luggoyo]

First off, not every baadiye in Somalia have the same Dhaqan, however the one I liked most is the one practiced in an area between Kenya and Somalia.

The courting starts when the dude reaches the age that he herds cattle and the dudette tends the waxaro. His first approach would be something to this effect "Heblaayo, do you know that your father's ox and my father's ox clashed today?" and then she would respond "No kidding?" he would then add "Your father's ox was almost gored to death but I intervened and beat my father's ox" she would then say "And why would you do that?" he would blushingly respond "For you" she would know that he means business, if she smiles or chuckles a little, he would know it means take the next step you idiot.

That is when he goes and informs his father about the amorous flirtations he has had with so and so's daughter and is interested to tie the knot.

The father would consult with his peers, cousins and close aides, they would then decide to send a word to the lady's father that they wanna talk about and process a potential xididnimo, a date will be set for the elders to meet and start bargaining about the price of the bride-to-be. Negotitations will start and end in favor of the resolute decision of the bride's side, after of course a tag of war of offers and counter offers. After consuming a kettle after kettle of tea, a hand shake seals the deal and a date is set for the nikaax and wedding reception.

Once the proposal is accepted, the groom-to-be is allowed to talk to the bride-to-be but of course not in private. She will start acting like a grown women and that is when her mother starts parting the knowlegde that makes an ideal wife to her daughter and her womanly responsibilities.

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NEXT, THE WEDDING CEREMONY

[sexy-kitten]

The amount of camels the groom brings is up to the bride's family to decide. Those who are greedy, they'll make the groom will pay for 30-40 camels, 10 sheep, AND 2 cows. On the wedding ceremony, there will be gabay and buraambur, no music.

[Sir-Luggoyo]

THE WEDDING CEREMONY

Word of the wedding spreads like bushfire in the villages far and wide, relatives gather at the venue, a number of oxes will be slaughtered and women will display their various culinary arts from boiled, bbq-ed to fried meat, the whole scene will be taken by women stirring couldron after couldron of meat and rice. Men will be sitting at the shades of the nearby trees, coaxing the other teenagers to get married. In a nearby tree, (or rather, the village hair saloon) the groom-to-be is being teased by his peers while he fondly caresses his ambrella shaped afro hair just finished by the village hair stylist, he removes the excess ghee that was applied as a hair conditioner and is admiring it through a mirror being held by a friend and is proudly smiling and satisfied with the fine work of the barber.

The bride-to-be is being pampered by her friends in a nearby hut, braiding her hair and teasingly telling her to refuse him the first night while giggling all the time. She is nervous and perspiring throughout this period of time and doesn't know what is in store for her, but hearsays tell her it is a nasty experience. But a woman has got to do what a woman has got to do.

Lunch is served, first to the elders who are presented with the finest of the feast, then follows the younger men and finally it's the women and children's turn to scramble for the left-overs. Now is the time to show off the dancing and poetry skilles that each posseses. The drums and cymbals start with a low tone that is meant as the opening of what is to turn into the wildest nights that the village has ever seen. Clapping, cheering and ululating persuades the men to waltz into the middle of the circle, while their poetry skill cajoles their female counterparts to get closer. The closer the female gets, the lower the male goes until he gets to a kneeling position where the women are to bend over and caress their breasts (not bared you pervs ) on their faces (this is late night dance and is called Jilbo ku nuug) the dance continues into the wee hours of the night, which is around 10pm.

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TO BE CONTINUED

[Sir-Luggoyo]

Now, the groom-to-be is escorted into the new hut built for the new family. Him and close friends will sit and chat until the bride is also escorted by her friends, singing "Xabiib nabow nuur Alle" , she is not rushed but takes every step as if it is eternity. Finally when they reach the hut, they push her into it and run away as if sacrificing her and seeing her the last time. She stumbles into the middle of the sitting men, what do they do? they welcome her with the beating of the century, each man has a stick and he uses it mercilessly until he has no more, all this time she doesn't flinch, scream or even utter a sound. When they are done, she goes to the kettle of tea boiling on the fire and starts pouring on glasses and hand it to the nearest guy, he pretends not to see her and continues with his fake conversation, she is supposed to hold the glass containing the hot tea and wait until he turns and gets it, each and everyone of them does the same and she successfully empties the kettle.

After they had had their tea, they vacate the hut. Now is the time to attend the real business. They have what is called "Alool", it's a wooden bed and in the far corner of the bed, attached is a device made of meshed branches that resemble spider's cobweb, only thicker. Once they get down to business, even though her skin is raw from the beating, he demands her to put her head in the meshed branches that would serve as a helmet that would hold her tight while he penetrates, so she can not move farther away from him, again she is not supposed to make a sound.

In the morning, her mother will be the first visitor, if she discovers a hole dug in front of the hut, then it means her daughter was not chaste and was used before, however, if she finds the white sheet stained with blood, she removes the sheet and displays for everyone to see, while ululating and rejoicing the scene. Afterwards, a friend of the groom will come and shave his head as a symbol of her virginity.

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How is that for a wedding?