After the wedding...

[Mr. Yungnfresh]

I'm with the guys who aren't with spending their life savings plus tax on a wedding just so hebel and heblaayo can get fat off bariis and hilib at my financial expense. Forget that, I'd rather a wedding with close family (I dont care if you're my second cousin twice removed, if I didn't know you before the wedding, security WILL escort your ass out...and your mama too) and close friends, small enough that it could be mistaken for a get together.

As for the honeymoon itself, it depends on whether she's willing to pitch on it (please believe if I dropped a couple thousand on the maheer and paid for the wedding, she better be expecting to split the honeymoon costs, or the only place we're going is straight home...basically, no trips if she trips ).

[sexy-kitten]

Mr Young, I mean I hope you don't marry a ximaar. Every girl knows that if the guy is willing to do his share, she'll more than happily pitch in. No point in putting all the weight on the poor guy's shoulder.

[Mr. Yungnfresh]

You dunno?! Some girls ARE animals like that though...they think being a gentleman is being an ATM. You can try asking the right questions before getting married to make sure there aren't any surprises, but it's hard asking "naaya are u a golddigger by accident?" politely, and it's even harder getting her to admit it if she is.

[HELWAA]

Qoraxey, that mentality is exactly what's wrong with many marriages. You can't just get married and BOOM get pregnant. Waayo? Why not get to know what its like to live with the person first? I would hate to get married and get pregnant in the first 5 months. Mmm, not happening! Then again, who am I to predict the future!

The only reason I'll get married is to have a kid

Subxanallah.

[qoraxeey]

ppl im serious

[AbdiWahab252]

Whats wrong fellows ? Why not have her contribute to the expenses too ? My cousin was frank with his in-laws and told them he had $10,000 for all expenses and that was the budget. If they wanted to contribute for anything beyond that welcome.

Shid, I am currently under intense negotiations at the moment. Her family are thinking just because I am a balding older man that they can take me to cleaners. They better realize that I am helping them out too: marrying their 30 year old daughter (over age around here - makes no sense paying 19 year old bride prices for 30 year old ones )

Anyways, fellas, stay strong and let it be known that you can walk out of the deal at any given moment if they try to intimidate you into paying out more than you want to.

[TheLoFather]

Most people here are cheapstakes!

Me I would spend as much as I can on the wedding, a lavish wedding, the bigger the better. Because it is something that we will do together once in a life time,(well that is the hope anyway), and the only thing that we'll do once, and once only, plus I have seen what it means to women, for most women it something which they have started to think about/imagined when since they were like 6 yrs of age or something playing with their dolls and acting out their dream wedding, so will do everything possible to make it a memorable one for us. A great honeymoon would be the icing on the cake.

[SultanOrder]

Most people here are cheapstakes!

Me I would spend as much as I can on the wedding, a lavish wedding, the bigger the better. Because it is something that we will do together once in a life time,(well that is the hope anyway), and the only thing that we'll do once, and once only, plus I have seen what it means to women, for most women it something which they have started to think about/imagined when since they were like 6 yrs of age or something playing with their dolls and acting out their dream wedding, so will do everything possible to make it a memorable one for us. A great honeymoon would be the icing on the cake.

Agah, caaqaan ma naag cadaan ba marku leeyahay waligood bay ka fakariy jireen

[1-Londoner]

Yup. Inshallah, I'll be having a honeymoon. I wouldnt refer to it as such laakiin...most soomaalis tend to wrinkle their noses at anything deemed to westernized...so i'l be like...'Just going away for a week or so with the kusband'...and then jet off somewhere. My sis went to south east Asia for hers so...i'll be doing one better.

[snoop12]

after the wedding i will go on a honeymoon inside her. LOoooooooool, ok seriously, i dont imagine myself spending money on a cruise, hotel somewhere in greenland or whatever when i myself know all i will be thinking about is F'ing her all day all night.

when that excitement is gone, we can allways go traveling and whatnot, but until then i dont want to spend money on getting away from relatives/friends when i can just tell them to F off for 2 months Lol.

[BlackVelvet]

So u wanna play that quote game. I didn't mean "no wedding" when Lord Diplock said that what I meant was a tripple combo.

A) A respectable modest wedding
B) A trip overseas/vacation/honeymoon right after the wedding
C) Maybe a little change/savings left over to start the new life after return.

To Me that is 100x better than blowing everything so people can shake their tailfeather for 2 hours with a bunch of Somalis u don't even know and most of the people there to critique Your wedding, and at the end of the day the Couple not even having fun while on the other hand You coulda toned that down a bit, and been pina coladas on a beach in Dubai. Its not penny pinching, it is being smart and using recourses for maximum benefit/enjoyment

It was just a reminder for you dee.

Respectable/modest is open to interpretation. It's silly for anyone to blow their budget in any case however if you're doing something better to do it well or not at all.

[NewHargeisaGirl]

after the wedding u get pregnant

and prepair for parenthood

many dont go to honeymoon anymore at least we im from

alla beerkaay ! after the wedding u get pregnant