Somali Cultural differences between men and women

[AgentOfChaos]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

[uglybrother]

if you were given as much freedom as the boys, how differerent would your life be?

[Coeus]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

Wow man, dont you have any relatives in the country your currently live in ?

[grandpakhalif]

This is to protect your daughter from becoming promiscuous, I would want my daughter out at midnight, who knows what hes doing. but a man could protect himself.

[Lillaahiya]

I come from a very traditional background, which basically meant my parents tried their best to raise my siblings and I the same way they were brought up. As for asxab, my fam never had a problem with me having them. The only downfall I can think of is that they associated negative behaviour with friends. "Haa, ______ ayaad intaas ka baratay" kind of stuff, but the accusations of succumbing to peer pressure died down as I got older.

[AgentOfChaos]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

Wow man, dont you have any relatives in the country your currently live in ?

Yeah there are, perhaps too many, but I don't keep contact with them. I'm just too busy juggling work and university.

[Coeus]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

Wow man, dont you have any relatives in the country your currently live in ?

Yeah there are, perhaps too many, but I don't keep contact with them. I'm just too busy juggling work and university.

I see

[Lillaahiya]

I come from a very traditional background, which basically meant my parents tried their best to raise my siblings and I the same way they were brought up. As for asxab, my fam never had a problem with me having them. The only downfall I can think of is that they associated negative behaviour with friends. "Haa, ______ ayaad intaas ka baratay" kind of stuff, but the accusations of succumbing to peer pressure died down as I got older.

Yes, thats a big one! "So and so is a bad influence." When so and so is the best influence out of your friends, i mean at the end of the day though you really only see what people want you to see lakiin parents have mad instincts when it comes to folks . Was this different between you and your male siblings or the same across the board?

Funnily enough, that was the only common ground I shared with my brothers. In every other aspect of life, our treatment was worlds apart.

[grandpakhalif]

Xaaski yacni it has more to do with preserving the family honor, the promiscous man cannot get pregnant.

[Beans]

^^^ yet both genders are equal in front of Allah.

Hooyo treated us all equally.The curfew was in place no matter the gender.But the boys always had to sneak out somehow and we actually covered for them more than hooyo ever found out.

In terms of chores,we never cleaned their rooms or did their laundry.They had part in the cooking,like they were supposed but later on we kinda figured they are more of a liability in the kitchen than help.

But i gotta agree,SOmali hooyos dont like seeing their daughters with friends.It is somehow like a poison.

[Naboleon]

ur not a male why u wanna be treeted that way? a womans place is at home anways

[DisplacedDiraac]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

AUN your parents.

Anyway.. My parents have always been extra strict on all my siblings regardless of gender.. None of my brothers have ever stayed out late, they only started doing this when they started uni..
I remember when we were teens my parents had a tighter lease on my brothers than they ever did on the girls.. Only because they were soo many of them and us girls were always pretty mellow and prefered staying @ home.

The only difference is the boys in my family *as they got older* tend to do hardly anything around the house.. Except clean their room, but they do chores like get the shopping, cut the grass.. Erm thats about it really..

[AgentOfChaos]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

I'm sorry to hear that! May allah raise your parents esteem in the grave and may you reunite in Janna. Are there any differences you notice between yourself and the average somali guy who doesnt become independent until 24?

I don't know, I guess they have more confidence that is borderline cockiness, the kind of confidence that only someone who grew up in unconditional love family has. I guess they take things for granted and walk around like the world owes them something, but there is an exception for everything, I have met few that are actually not that cocky but rather down to earth.

[caburiye1]

I wouldn't know anything about that cause I'm the only child, and my parents passed away when I was a kid. I lived with one relatives after another when I was a kid back in Somalia, but ever since the age of 14 I was living on my own.

I'm sorry to hear that! May allah raise your parents esteem in the grave and may you reunite in Janna. Are there any differences you notice between yourself and the average somali guy who doesnt become independent until 24?

I don't know, I guess they have more confidence that is borderline cockiness, the kind of confidence that only someone who grew up in unconditional love family has. I guess they take things for granted and walk around like the world owes them something, but there is an exception for everything, I have met few that are actually not that cocky but rather down to earth.

I actually would have preferred to be the only Child in My family. My sis and brothers have never given me anything other than feeding on me when I grow up and beating me up when I was young. I didn't enjoy having them around even know. My relationship with them is Money, Money and more Money. They call to ask how much more I would send this month but not how I have been doing lately

[KingMJ]

My family, when men mess up its more of a joke. Theres no like "I cant believe this, you're supposed to be a good muslim. A good person." guilt trip, oh you've stayed out till midnight? "Warya, you're supposed to be a man. SMH" and then change the subject. Also, its normal for guys to have friends, but the only friends we girls should have are each other and our parents. My moms literally thinks having saxiibaat is a disease . But for the guys "They're not friends they just play ball together. Every day. Since they were 3."
Sooo to summarise, in my fams the main difference between the boys and the girls is the restrictions on the social life. The guys in my family are expected to clean alhamdulilah and know how to cook (but not actually cook haha) so thats really the biggest/only difference. How about yours?

My parents were strict equally with all genders, especially with education. Everything was about education and being watched heavily on that so everything else came second.

But the only thing different was the cooking and chores, the boys had absolute none never had to cook or hoover the house. Me being the youngest gave me the added bonus of not having to left a thing around the house.
Even to this day