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Alchemist/Yungfresh,


Theres something about Somali girls, may Allah bless them, that they just come across as extremely desperate for marraige, and thats not a good thing. Compared to girls from other races, they seem the most willing to just marry anybody and everybody. I wonder why that is.

As painful as it is to admit sxb, it's cuz of us. How many Somali guys are really marriageable...I'd say 7/10 are either dirtbags, unambitious, in jail, jaad-heads or some combination. Take a look at any major university in any city with a large Somali population, and you'll see a trend where there's a 10:1 ratio of Somali girls to Somali guys. After a certain point, you can't blame them for looking elsewhere...cuz where there's demand, someone will supply. But they could definitely make better choices than some of them do when they marry outside the race.

Funny story, there's an cadaan guy I grew up with who became Muslim a few years ago...he told me "when I reverted, all the brothers at the Masjid were telling me to marry a Somali girl cuz that's what all the brothers do when they revert"...made me pause Wallahi, but that's what happens when there's not enough MaashaAllaah Somali guys to go around for all the MaashaAllaah Somali girls.

p.s. No girls are allowed to agree with my comment

really true, in my uni it was the case, also it is the chat problem, we have such huge number of boys going to prison in london alone, i know many girls getting married from africa, yes, it is being reversed. girls are looking for good guys.

or marrying much older guys

Sudani and Xabashi ? are you kidding me, i'm in 2012 FAh who left you behind in 1990s Somali chicks are hot commodities these days, they are famously known as Cheap N Clean, every guy in the gym, out in the football field, in the club and now even in the Masjid is thinking about getting some Somali flower for launch. Its really happening, ask your mates to be honest with you, give out questionairs and find out the statistics if you don't believe me.

It's true and its too late. You are fighting a losing battle my friend.

Just worry about yourself and your relatives, individualism is the order of the day

but then they do say that every race/ethnic group will experience 5% or less marrying out of their group. in england you have about 2 milliom mixed race, evevry country ( except for asians, chinese, etc) arabs do intermarry a lot, usually with Europeans, well north african arabs like algerians, tunesians, morocans, egyptians etc. , blacks do it heavily so do whites in USA/canada.

part of protecting your female relatives is also protecting their friends, if their friend is beyond help then you must convince your female relative to abondon her relationship with her friend inorder not to be negatively influenced by it.

Somali girls who have turned rogue will promote mixing with other races like Jareers and Whites because they are themselves involved in it, but they tell only the story that will sell this idea that Non-Somali men are better than Somali men. The biggest enemy of your sister is not Tyrone but it is the Somali Mrs Tyrone who will brainwash your sister.

part of protecting your female relatives is also protecting their friends, if their friend is beyond help then you must convince your female relative to abondon her relationship with her friend inorder not to be negatively influenced by it.

Somali girls who have turned rogue will promote mixing with other races like Jareers and Whites because they are themselves involved in it, but they tell only the story that will sell this idea that Non-Somali men are better than Somali men. The biggest enemy of your sister is not Tyrone but it is the Somali Mrs Tyrone who will brainwash your sister.

people r victims of circumstance and shouldnt be judge for their past mistakes. i think its better these girls marry a ex con revert brother than stay unmarried.

Ain't no one gonna settle for a cheap imitation when they could get the original. A large portion of Somali male youth in the west emulate AAs & adhere to the black subculture. I bet everyone knows a handful of guys who are choppers or aspiring rappers or trying to get drafted in basketball or are professional criminals, constantly in & out of the bin. So if this is the lifestyle our brothers, relatives, and male friends are endorsing, then why is everyone up in arms when a Somali girl marries an ex-con? Indeed, our Somali walaalyaal are doing a fine job at being buckets, but shidh just isn't the same when you get the real deal. Instead of settling for a Somali guy who wholeheartedly believes he's from Kingston, Jamaica, why not marry someone who is actually from there?

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan. So it's really not much of a surprise as to why Somali women end up with ajnabis. Regardless of how hard our men try, by skipping all this make-belief, a sister can get her authenticity on with an actual ajnabi instead of settling for second best. By imitating other ethnic groups, there is a concession being made that our dhaqan is inferior, and this is internalized by all parties.

As for Arabs/Pakistanis/Afghanis allowing their women to marry ajnabis, they do. Their interracial marriage rate is probably much higher than ours, however since there are more of them, it's less noticeable.

Sudani and Xabashi ? are you kidding me, i'm in 2012 FAh who left you behind in 1990s Somali chicks are hot commodities these days, they are famously known as Cheap N Clean, every guy in the gym, out in the football field, in the club and now even in the Masjid is thinking about getting some Somali flower for launch. Its really happening, ask your mates to be honest with you, give out questionairs and find out the statistics if you don't believe me.

The Somali girl market seems to be booming.

Makes me wonder if they're priced above their intrinsic worth tbh.

It's looking like a bubble

Ain't no one gonna settle for a cheap imitation when they could get the original. A large portion of Somali male youth in the west emulate AAs & adhere to the black subculture. I bet everyone knows a handful of guys who are choppers or aspiring rappers or trying to get drafted in basketball or are professional criminals, constantly in & out of the bin. So if this is the lifestyle our brothers, relatives, and male friends are endorsing, then why is everyone up in arms when a Somali girl marries an ex-con? Indeed, our Somali walaalyaal are doing a fine job at being buckets, but shidh just isn't the same when you get the real deal. Instead of settling for a Somali guy who wholeheartedly believes he's from Kingston, Jamaica, why not marry someone who is actually from there?

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan. So it's really not much of a surprise as to why Somali women end up with ajnabis. Regardless of how hard our men try, by skipping all this make-belief, a sister can get her authenticity on with an actual ajnabi instead of settling for second best. By imitating other ethnic groups, there is a concession being made that our dhaqan is inferior, and this is internalized by all parties.

As for Arabs/Pakistanis/Afghanis allowing their women to marry ajnabis, they do. Their interracial marriage rate is probably much higher than ours, however since there are more of them, it's less noticeable.

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan.

I dont see anything wrong with this type of an individual.

Ain't no one gonna settle for a cheap imitation when they could get the original. A large portion of Somali male youth in the west emulate AAs & adhere to the black subculture. I bet everyone knows a handful of guys who are choppers or aspiring rappers or trying to get drafted in basketball or are professional criminals, constantly in & out of the bin. So if this is the lifestyle our brothers, relatives, and male friends are endorsing, then why is everyone up in arms when a Somali girl marries an ex-con? Indeed, our Somali walaalyaal are doing a fine job at being buckets, but shidh just isn't the same when you get the real deal. Instead of settling for a Somali guy who wholeheartedly believes he's from Kingston, Jamaica, why not marry someone who is actually from there?

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan. So it's really not much of a surprise as to why Somali women end up with ajnabis. Regardless of how hard our men try, by skipping all this make-belief, a sister can get her authenticity on with an actual ajnabi instead of settling for second best. By imitating other ethnic groups, there is a concession being made that our dhaqan is inferior, and this is internalized by all parties.

As for Arabs/Pakistanis/Afghanis allowing their women to marry ajnabis, they do. Their interracial marriage rate is probably much higher than ours, however since there are more of them, it's less noticeable.

Son of a gun, you make a lot of sense walaalo.

Sudani and Xabashi ? are you kidding me, i'm in 2012 FAh who left you behind in 1990s Somali chicks are hot commodities these days, they are famously known as Cheap N Clean, every guy in the gym, out in the football field, in the club and now even in the Masjid is thinking about getting some Somali flower for launch. Its really happening, ask your mates to be honest with you, give out questionairs and find out the statistic if you don't believe me.

Adali, why do you speak of Somali women as such?

Ain't no one gonna settle for a cheap imitation when they could get the original. A large portion of Somali male youth in the west emulate AAs & adhere to the black subculture. I bet everyone knows a handful of guys who are choppers or aspiring rappers or trying to get drafted in basketball or are professional criminals, constantly in & out of the bin. So if this is the lifestyle our brothers, relatives, and male friends are endorsing, then why is everyone up in arms when a Somali girl marries an ex-con? Indeed, our Somali walaalyaal are doing a fine job at being buckets, but shidh just isn't the same when you get the real deal. Instead of settling for a Somali guy who wholeheartedly believes he's from Kingston, Jamaica, why not marry someone who is actually from there?

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan. So it's really not much of a surprise as to why Somali women end up with ajnabis. Regardless of how hard our men try, by skipping all this make-belief, a sister can get her authenticity on with an actual ajnabi instead of settling for second best. By imitating other ethnic groups, there is a concession being made that our dhaqan is inferior, and this is internalized by all parties.

As for Arabs/Pakistanis/Afghanis allowing their women to marry ajnabis, they do. Their interracial marriage rate is probably much higher than ours, however since there are more of them, it's less noticeable.

you spoke the truth.

Ain't no one gonna settle for a cheap imitation when they could get the original. A large portion of Somali male youth in the west emulate AAs & adhere to the black subculture. I bet everyone knows a handful of guys who are choppers or aspiring rappers or trying to get drafted in basketball or are professional criminals, constantly in & out of the bin. So if this is the lifestyle our brothers, relatives, and male friends are endorsing, then why is everyone up in arms when a Somali girl marries an ex-con? Indeed, our Somali walaalyaal are doing a fine job at being buckets, but shidh just isn't the same when you get the real deal. Instead of settling for a Somali guy who wholeheartedly believes he's from Kingston, Jamaica, why not marry someone who is actually from there?

Then we have brothers who've seen the light, reformed and will swear to God they're Arab. You'll find them at the masjid, tryna to string together the only 6 Arabic words they know into what they think is a coherent sentence ( i.e "Kayf ya habibi, macasalaama yallah bes"). Refuse to wear a macawis or any other cultural clothing, yet are always rocking dishdashas/khamiis on the day-to-day. Don't care to go back home but are saving up their money to move to some gulf state. They'll own all of Sami Yusufs cds and blast them in their car, but refuse to play Somali Nabi-amaan. So it's really not much of a surprise as to why Somali women end up with ajnabis. Regardless of how hard our men try, by skipping all this make-belief, a sister can get her authenticity on with an actual ajnabi instead of settling for second best. By imitating other ethnic groups, there is a concession being made that our dhaqan is inferior, and this is internalized by all parties.

As for Arabs/Pakistanis/Afghanis allowing their women to marry ajnabis, they do. Their interracial marriage rate is probably much higher than ours, however since there are more of them, it's less noticeable.

I see where your coming from, but is this a response to the OP?
The people being discussed have no dhaqan, they tend to be ex prisoners and verbally engineer or force their way into marriage (sometimes) deceitfully using the religion as a justification. The women (not just somali), they either abuse, discard or mistreat, this action has its root in satisfying their own twisted and selfish desires. Granted their a minority amongst reverts; but their is a tendency which is being noticed (i also previously heard) that Somali women flock themselfes towards reverts out of desperation. Only increasing the likelihood of encountering some of these predators.

war ha iska goorsadan naka daaya, intey meelaha taagtaag lahayen. hado nin ajnabi idinka asturo wa khair.

I dont see anything wrong with this type of an individual.

Of course you don't

I see where your coming from, but is this a response to the OP?
The people being discussed have no dhaqan, they tend to be ex prisoners and verbally engineer or force their way into marriage (sometimes) deceitfully using the religion as a justification. The women (not just somali), they either abuse, discard or mistreat, this action has its root in satisfying their own twisted and selfish desires. Granted their a minority amongst reverts; but their is a tendency which is being noticed (i also previously heard) that Somali women flock themselfes towards reverts out of desperation. Only increasing the likelihood of encountering some of these predators.

Naw, it's more of a response to the comments. As for women flocking to these men out of desperation, I believe there's a lot more to it. For example, if I was "desperate" to get married,I'd turn to my mom, relatives or friends to lend a helping hand. I wouldn't actively search for an ex-con revert. Now, if I grew up with gang-bangers as friends, had a drug dealer for a brother, an absentee father, and am surrounded by Somali guys who wish they were black, I wouldn't see the harm in settling down with a 3-day old Muslim ex-con. What I'm eluding to is that we're a product of our environment, and we should work to change the mindsets of the youth in order to better our current situation.