Salafi Marriage Bandits.

[Beans]

I had no idea what a Salafi was had to google!

Not to wholly blame Somali men but seriously I only met two Somali guys in my four years of uni (as in we had the same classes). Neither asked me out, so whatever, (lol) I MIGHT only have gone out with one of them anyways. All of my Afghan/Persian/Brown girlfriends managed to meet a nice guy while in school. Neither me or my female cousin did. *sigh* I'd like to meet a nice Somali guy but I haven't and don't foresee that changing soon. I'm not getting younger so I can't limit myself to only Somali men. If I meet nice MUSLIM man then why not?

Sealion, this isn't about non-Somalis. This is about non-Somalis who've recently became Muslim, have reformed themselves in prison and/or left the gangster lifestyle and are in the marriage solely beacuse you are a Somali girl. To them, you are a commodity.

Marry a non-Somali, so long as he is a good Muslim whose past won't come back to haunt you.

I would never marry a madow man they scare me! Actually any man who is much larger physically then I am scares me (which most of the madow men I know are). Nor would I ever marry a criminal. uff. lol I hope I get a good husband I've been good and deserve one. whallahi Marriage scares me I only want to marry once, but I have such trust issues.

I think i am gonna find a nice guy who owns few goats and a nice hut in village in Africa and call it a day.

[XaliimoFarax]

Marriage terrifies a lot of us.

Just close ur eyes and go for it. u think too much.

[FAH1223]

wow i find myself agreeing with several posters(this rarely happens around Somalis) almost entirely, briliant ! Alphanumberic and Lillaahiya.

She argued for culture, and that a brother who upholds the Somali dhaqan would attract these girls. I argued these girls do not want the dhaqan and that the culture in itself is dieing/non-existent in the diaspora. I'm not sure how well our posts coincide, though it could be argued I'm simply tackling the source of the problems her post touches on.

Fah

Beans, go back to my posts please. The family unit is dieing in the diaspora. It barely exists.

dude if they want a 'cultured guy' they're gonna have to either marry an older dude, a straight up FOB, or get married in the old country

a wise man once said "its ain't where you from, but where you at"

[MrSinister]

I had no idea what a Salafi was had to google!

Not to wholly blame Somali men but seriously I only met two Somali guys in my four years of uni (as in we had the same classes). Neither asked me out, so whatever, (lol) I MIGHT only have gone out with one of them anyways. All of my Afghan/Persian/Brown girlfriends managed to meet a nice guy while in school. Neither me or my female cousin did. *sigh* I'd like to meet a nice Somali guy but I haven't and don't foresee that changing soon. I'm not getting younger so I can't limit myself to only Somali men. If I meet nice MUSLIM man then why not?

why even restrict yourself to humans, if you meet a nice mammal,I say go for it. your pu.ssy is yours and yours alone.

waa yaab the things some men who call themselves Muslims say to Muslim women.

sorry for the flowery words, but im sure you understood my point.

[Alphanumeric]

Xaliimo,

So she can rob me blind? Nope.

Fah,

Culture is dead. Internet killed it.

[Saraxnow]

So FAH and Alpha, you don't think speaking the language is valuable at least sentimentally, if not practically?

[Alphanumeric]

So FAH and Alpha, you don't think speaking the language is valuable at least sentimentally, if not practically?

Please, read through this thread.

viewtopic.php?f=18&t=294035

I really don't have the energy to speak on culture any more. I've mentioned my views throughout this thread and many others.

[FAH1223]

So FAH and Alpha, you don't think speaking the language is valuable at least sentimentally, if not practically?

The language may have use now in our generation but in one generation there will be absolutely no use for it here in countries outside of Somalia. And I know 80-90% of people ain't moving to Somalia anytime soon.

[Alphanumeric]

Sara,

You and I had a back and forth on this already. You know my views regarding the coming generations in the diaspora. The choice is either deen or culture. It won't be both, I promise you.

Consider the number of folks online second guessing, doubting and even leaving the deen. Multiply that by 1000, at least, for every city Somalis are in. Add to it the number of club hoppers and gangster wannabes.

The diaspora is screwed. Very simple.

[FAH1223]

Screw Af Somali, I don't care for it. Its a useless language. My Kid probably will not know one word of Somali.

I mean I'll marry a Somali just so at least our famlies can have relations without My Parents feeling like strangers at my house. But the Somali girl I marry is gonna be born or raised in the West like Me. As far as My kids go, there will be zero restrictions I don't care if they marry Chinese. Heck I'd even encourage it as by that time China will be the global superpower. Somalia even if it gets peace tommorow will take 20 years to rebuild and by that time We'll be settled in wherever we are to go move there so screw it.

[Daanyerow]

If it ain't your sister, you shouldn't worry. I don't know about you but I refuse to be an activist for Somali hoes rights.

[Saraxnow]

Fah, Yes it may not have any use, but your kids wouldn't you want them knowing it? What if they feel a part of them is missing and start going on soul-searching missions ''to Africa where my ancestors once lived'' like the AAs?

Alpha is the only antidote to a room full of cheery folks eh.

[Alphanumeric]

Screw Af Somali, I don't care for it. Its a useless language. My Kid probably will not know one word of Somali.

I mean I'll marry a Somali just so at least our famlies can have relations without My Parents feeling like strangers at my house. But the Somali girl I marry is gonna be born or raised in the West like Me. As far as My kids go, there will be zero restrictions I don't care if they marry Chinese. Heck I'd even encourage it as by that time China will be the global superpower. Somalia even if it gets peace tommorow will take 20 years to rebuild and by that time We'll be settled in wherever we are to go move there so screw it.

Sara, I won't apologize if my understanding of reality stings.

[XaliimoFarax]

Sometimes I feel depressed reading Alpha’s posts. Tone it down its not all doom.

[Saraxnow]

Sometimes I feel depressed reading Alpha’s posts. Tone it down its not all doom.

Soo maha walaaley

Alpha, your understanding, may it never happen inshAllah