BV,
I remember that as well. The two were told to perform acts over the phone by someone who turned out to be just a prank caller impersonating a regional manager of some sort. But what PO is saying is something much more personal. It is prolonged psychological and emotional abuse (or even constant pressuring) that allows for the manufactured consent of rape. If my wife ever admitted to feeling that has occurred, I'd be disgusted and ashamed with myself, probably forever.
What a sad existence having to pressure your own wife into sleeping with you.
All I would say is the solution to this is not rape or bullying. If you cannot sweet talk, charm, persuade your wife to sleep with you then maybe there are classes one can sign up for. If she does not under any circumstances want you anywhere near her then leave her.
I'm curious though, how do you reconcile these two quotes?