Is it unethical?

[SultanOrder]

guys are more likely for all those things, so she should be more scared then you, but if she is brave enough to give you the chance to not break her heart why not go for it? Or is it that you don't really trust yourself?

[QaaliDumar]

It's best to have kids while you are still young. I have a 7 and a 9 year old and people have a hard time believing am their mom

[Rainbows]

It's best to have kids while you are still young. I have a 7 and a 9 year old and people have a hard time believing am their mom

You have kids? Impressive.

[gurey25]

Alpha you should get married..
I was always told by everyone the same thing that life after marriage will be much better for you and all that..
I thought it was nonesense and i sue to roll my eyes.

well after getting married, i am the one telling people to get married..

[greenday]

It's best to have kids while you are still young. I have a 7 and a 9 year old and people have a hard time believing am their mom

Mashallah but how young were you

[Somaliman50]

kolkey xalaal ii noqoto cidna sugimaayo

[QaaliDumar]

It's best to have kids while you are still young. I have a 7 and a 9 year old and people have a hard time believing am their mom

Mashallah but how young were you

Young

[Alphanumeric]

guys are more likely for all those things, so she should be more scared then you, but if she is brave enough to give you the chance to not break her heart why not go for it? Or is it that you don't really trust yourself?

I don't trust myself to be monogamous? Is that what you're trying to say? Lol, that has never been a concern of mine. Not even a passing thought.

Her cheating or running off with some dude is the extreme. What I'm more concerned of is waking up everyday for over a decade, to see someone who may or may not even appreciate my company; someone who'd rather chat on the phone than with me; who doesn't understand the basics of communication and connection; who lies about their past and modesty during the conversation before hand; who turns out to be an egotist; who, after waking up, hands you divorce papers on the grounds of financial instability, taking what little you've had to your name.

That, coupled with the fact personal connections are probably impossible for me, I don't see it in my foreseeable future. Even if it were a mutual understanding of halaal sex, the consequential responsibilities outweigh any probable gains.


gurey, whether I should or shouldn't isn't the question. Why?

[greenday]

Zeliha, again mashallah

[SultanOrder]

Alpha do you want to get laid?

[Alphanumeric]

I'm weighing my options.

[greenday]

Alpha do you want to get laid?

I'm weighing my options.

[SultanOrder]

[Enlightened~Sista]

PO shaydaan

[gurey25]

alpha.

dude you are over thinking this..

in the end it all depends on the filling our the check list.

1.Does she have good upbringing (you can tell from the family)
2.Is she religious
3.Is she attractive to you?
4. Do you find each others company pleasurable


if you check them all from the list then you are good to go..

it really is that simple..
I was like you worried too much, over analyzed it, my biggest worry was the marriage not working out.
this is because i am allergic to bullshit and drama queens , i cant put up with that shit for 1 minute and i will divorce in the drop of a hat.
even though i hate the idea and it is one of the worst things to do that is permitted in islam.

luckily i found someone with no drama and who is also allergic to bullshit, and is self confident.

im pretty happy alxamdulilah.


and when i mean simple i do mean simple,
falling in love ruins everything, romance ruins it as well.
real love and romance happens AFTER MARRIAGE.

from the first telephone call to courtship to engagement was for me exactly 7 weeks.