Is it unethical?

[XaliimoFarax]

from the first telephone call to courtship to engagement was for me exactly 7 weeks.

Applause is in order.

May Allah bless ur marriage and ur offsprings.

[Alphanumeric]

and when i mean simple i do mean simple,
falling in love ruins everything, romance ruins it as well.
real love and romance happens AFTER MARRIAGE.

What is the difference between "real love" and "fake love"? What is "religious"? Why does one's currently apparent religiousness overshadow their past promiscuities? How do you differentiate between false and true modesty? What happens when she no longer finds me pleasurable, attractive, or even tolerable? Should we rely on "true love" then?

I know of a marriage who's first contact to nikaax was also merely weeks. They are horrible for each other.

[SultanOrder]

alpha get over yourself dude, if half those bad things happened to you, you would be able to move on. You aint some chump who will be so deeply hurt they will never take the risk again, you aint that self-sacrificing, I think you need to get over your whole romanticism.

[gurey25]

alpha first of all we should be careful when we use words like love.
its loaded with too many conflicting meanings.

I was promoting marriage because a successfull marriage will bring you happiness in this life,
it will bring you emotional fullfilment .

now the attachment and the growing closer together within a marriage is a beautiful thing.

Running into a strange girl, that sets your heart fluttering, infatuation , joy elation
and of course sexual attraction is also great but it also tends to be unstable, and thus not conducive to your longterm happiness.

[Alphanumeric]

PO, lol @ get over yourself. Using the stick now are we? No more carrots?


gurey, I agree. That's always been my view.

[SultanOrder]

your overdoing the victim/potential victim card wtf

[Alphanumeric]

Lol, take divorce out from what I said... can you honestly tell me that isn't the general perspective of marriage?

Now consider the sky rocketing of divorce rates, especially among Muslims. It's just an observation. No victim card being played. If you disagree with the possibilities I've shared, bring something to disprove the general views.

[SultanOrder]

your life aint a statistic till you dead, just live your life, and let them put you on a graph if they like afterwards

[Alphanumeric]

Haha. Just live your life indeed.

[Candience]

No I don't think it is unethical, I think the newlyweds should just enjoy first year of marriage and adjust the new life style without popping babies.

10 years is too long though, I am talking about 1-2 years.

[Alphanumeric]

1-2 years? Lol, that's pretty much the start, no? Have a kid a year or so into your marriage? I don't see how it could be any faster, unless she were pregnant before the marriage lol.

[Beans]

Two to few years yea,and nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy ur life before taking responsibility of raising kids.

[zulaika]

why the interest in contraceptives..

actually it was a patch and apparently it is better than pills as it has less side affects..
and you use 1 patch per month.

are u kidding me? horta why u answer the question like you're the one using the product?..you're not a woman huuno.....the patch has lots of side effects, and i tell u this from experience

i would never recommend one contraceptive over the another...every women reacts differently so my advice for women who are thinking of such things please talk to your doctor.

[Lillaahiya]

I'd be pretty disgusted if my husband said that to me.

[Alphanumeric]

I'd be pretty disgusted if my husband said that to me.

said he'd like to spend a longer time with just you?