Is it unethical?

[Lillaahiya]

Why is it bad to wait a few years?

It's not, but for that reason? Smh.

[Alphanumeric]

Why is it bad to wait a few years?

It's not, but for that reason? Smh.

What other reason besides getting to really grow close and comfortable with each other is better?

[Nanees]

Lol @ child-like.... seriously, whats the point of marriage if not fondness between two people?

alfalfa the only 'point' of marriage you're gonna get one from me is unromantic, but after years of watching you struggle to understand it I think it's time to bestow you with my superior knowledge (source/ wikipedia), Heres the who what where when and why of marriage in my opinion.

For those of you who have trouble reading more than 7 sentences, i've bolded the high lights

To address the 'why', you dont get married because you're lonely, or bored, or horny or because you want somebody to love you for you (which is the biggest bullshit reason people get married). you get married because it's the right thing to do. Its encouraged by the diin, it brings joy to your family and your parents, you have the opportunity (through marriage) to have children inshaAllah and raise them to be good muslims and teach them to make a difference in this world. In todays world of effed up politics and corruption the greatest difference one good man can make, is to raise four more.

To address the 'who', you find not somebody you're attracted to, or somebody that has the same taste in music/tv/shows as you, or even somebody that 'understands' your references and subculture jokes, you get married cuz its the right thing to do and you find somebody that makes doing the right thing easy.


To address the 'what', marriage is work. just like they tell you to find a job in a career you enjoy doing, marriage can be a job that you enjoy doing. After some time all the work you put into making it easy for your partner to make themselves a better muslim pays off, after watching somebody grow into a better person and knowing you contributed to that and they contributed to you becoming a better person love and unconditional trust is inevitable. To put it bluntly, you're not about to cheat or leave somebody cuz they're broke after having invested so much time into them and them having invested time into you. Thats like if buying an iphone involved a one time down payment (meher) and knowing that a new improved, better iphone is on the way, but getting so pissed at a glitch or even a serious software malfunction that you swear off iphones and switch to androids. You've lost your down payment and missed out on hundreds of better iphones that are gonna come out in the future . You never actually stop trying to make it easy for the other to be a better person, but eventually you've put in so much work that blowing off glitches comes natural to you and the good parts of that person only get 'gooder'. the work with marriage only gets harder with time I think though because it's easier to fix a bad habit than to appreciate a good one after 10 years of witnessing it.

To address the 'when', you should get married a) when you can afford it. b) when your family can afford to lose your attention and a great deal of your support to your spouse. c) when your mature enough to realise how much damn work marriage is gonna be realistically, and you still want to get married.

To address the 'where', every night in your king side bed with your wife


I have spoken.

[Nanees]

and wth is with the people on this site being so obsessed with the topic of marriage

i went through my phases too of wanting to settle down, and I would have had no regrets If I had settled down but damn son. Marriage is hard work, and when your single the only person you have to worry about before making life decisions is your parents . and i'm assuming most of our parents would be cool with nearly anything so long as it had to do with self improvement. whereas when you get married, all your life plans have to fit in wth somebody elses and if they don't then ladies, its probably gonna be you making the sacrifices. you only get to be selfish when your single and young and I'm nowhere near done being selfish.

[Rainbows]

^^tl;dr

Alpha you marry someone simply because you want to fuck someone and not go to hell. Anyone else who says otherwise is lying.

[Alphanumeric]

uh huh...

Rain ...truth.

[Nanees]

^^tl;dr

Alpha you marry someone simply because you want to fuck someone and not go to hell. Anyone else who says otherwise is lying.

i started using slife when i was sixteen and thats the longest thing i think i've ever typed out for a forum

[Rainbows]

^^tl;dr

Alpha you marry someone simply because you want to fuck someone and not go to hell. Anyone else who says otherwise is lying.

i started using slife when i was sixteen and thats the longest thing i think i've ever typed out for a forum

You tried to trick me. I went for the bold parts thinking they are important and all I saw was "iphone", "marriage", etc. WTH

[Nanees]

^^tl;dr

Alpha you marry someone simply because you want to fuck someone and not go to hell. Anyone else who says otherwise is lying.

i started using slife when i was sixteen and thats the longest thing i think i've ever typed out for a forum

You tried to trick me. I went for the bold parts thinking they are important and all I saw was "iphone", "marriage", etc. WTH

thats literally my opinion of divorce. Is that weird?

[Rainbows]

You can't upgrade your wife if a better model happens to catch your eye. Are Androids men in your analogy?

[Nanees]

You can't upgrade your wife if a better model happens to catch your eye. Are Androids men in your analogy?

no men are more like cars with crappy gas mileage. Even if you're putting in more than you're getting out it would be more trouble than its worth to get an entriely new car

[Rainbows]

Women are like bread. The are soft and warm at the start but then they go moldy, crispy, cold, stiff, etc.

[Alphanumeric]

Women are like bread. The are soft and warm at the start but then they go moldy, crispy, cold, stiff, etc.

[Nanees]

Rainbows are like gay.

[Rainbows]

Rainbows are like gay.

Straw that broke the camel's back. I am changing nick now. That's it.