A Rumour

[Lillaahiya]

Let's say you're getting hitched and everything's looking dandy until a friend tells you some foul ish about your husband/wife-to-be. Something that could dissolve the entire relationship. Furthermore, your friend says they can't confirm whether it's true or not. Mind you, this isn't some acquaintance but a friend that's very dear to you and one that's trustworthy. What would you do?

On the flip side, if it was your friend whose getting married, and it was you who came across this devastating rumour, would you tell them?

[fighter]

There was this one guy who married a girl in 2009 and all his boys were coming to him telling him not to marry her because shes been around and that they themselves dealt with her. Not one, not two but like 10 of them pleaded with him.

He ignored them and ended up marrying the girl

Moral of the story: You shouldn't tell. Keep your lips sealed. Because they will most likely still marry the girl/guy if they love each other. What ends up occuring is awkwardness and possibly even an end of a friendship

[yungnfresh]

Firstly, Mabruuk.

Second, I'd listen to what it is and if I could see it being true, I'd have to reconsider the entire marriage idea. If there's no way I could see it possibly being true, I'd straightup ask the fiance...I can tell based on someone's initial reaction if they're frontin or telling the truth, so I'd find out for myself.

If I was the friend, NO DOUBT. You have to, it's foul to keep that kinda info to urself regardless of what ur friend decides to do with the info once u pass it to them.

[Lillaahiya]

Fighter:
Well that's different. These are mandem that dealt with her. Not just 1 guy, but almost a dozen. That's factual. Whereas I'm asking if you'd tell your friend a rumour; something you may not know is true.

p.s. Are they still married?

Yung: I'm not getting hitched Honestly, I wouldn't tell my friend if I was 100% certain it was the truth. As for my friend telling me, they'd have to be 100% certain as well.

[MujahidAishah]

Keep it too ur self if the meher is happening then too late plus ppl will think ur tryna ruin the. Wedding ... I found out that my female cousin got married to a midgaan family on the day of the meher i never told...

[Lillaahiya]

^ LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL @ Midgaan

I'm talking about ppl who are choppers, whores, buckets..you're putting qof dhan in that category cause of their qabiil? Yaa rasuul Allah!

[Protagonist]

I found out that my female cousin got married to a midgaan family on the day of the meher i never told...

Somalis and their backward mentality , no but seriously i would like to know is she was a slut before i met her, i think that needs to be taken into consideration before i marry her.

[Nanees]

depends on what the rumour is....

[yungnfresh]

Yung: I'm not getting hitched Honestly, I wouldn't tell my friend if I was 100% certain it was the truth. As for my friend telling me, they'd have to be 100% certain as well.

What if u found out it's actually true, but after the marriage? If that marriage falls apart because of it later, you're gonna feel wack for just sitting on that info the whole time. The way I see it, I wouldn't want my close friend to hide anything from me about something that life-changing...I wanna know what they know, even if they don't know for sure.

[eliteSomali]

She'd get it regardless of the authenticity of the story. I mean how can she be thought of as a hoe? She gotta show her shamelessness beyond doubt.

[Alphanumeric]

Nope. Not my business.

And that ain't a friend

[MujahidAishah]

^ LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL @ Midgaan

I'm talking about ppl who are choppers, whores, buckets..you're putting qof dhan in that category cause of their qabiil? Yaa rasuul Allah!

Yh walaal its still shameful in this day n age so i didnt tell anyone to save her embrassment

Ps dont marry no one that has past n get ur family to dig for info on the person before u marry them save everyone heartache

[Alphanumeric]

Then again, if I found out later on down the road, lol... psych ward

[Coeus]

Show us the bastard who betrayed your trust

[Lillaahiya]

Yung: I'm not getting hitched Honestly, I wouldn't tell my friend if I was 100% certain it was the truth. As for my friend telling me, they'd have to be 100% certain as well.

What if u found out it's actually true, but after the marriage? If that marriage falls apart because of it later, you're gonna feel wack for just sitting on that info the whole time. The way I see it, I wouldn't want my close friend to hide anything from me about something that life-changing...I wanna know what they know, even if they don't know for sure.

There's different outcomes though

A) You tell your friend and he flips shit. Confronts her and she gets cheesed cause he's making her out to be suspect. They call off the wedding. The rumour might have been false, which means you're partially liable for the failed relationship. Or, the rumour is true, and your friend is on to the next.

B) Your friend gets cheesed at you cause he's blinded. Ruins the friendship over something you can't confirm is true or not.

C) He knows and he accepts her for it, and you look like a bastard for thinking it's something that would hinder their relationship. Now you're gonna think ill of his wifey, and things might even be awkward between you two.

D) You keep your mouth shut. If things go down the drain and homeboy asks you why you didn't tell him, you can confidently say you didn't wanna ruin their shot at a marriage over a rumour.

I'm taking the safe route.