A Rumour

[AbdiWahab252]

Unless she is HIV positive, why give a shit

[Lillaahiya]

^ LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL @ Midgaan

I'm talking about ppl who are choppers, whores, buckets..you're putting qof dhan in that category cause of their qabiil? Yaa rasuul Allah!

Yh walaal its still shameful in this day n age so i didnt tell anyone to save her embrassment

Ps dont marry no one that has past n get ur family to dig for info on the person before u marry them save everyone heartache

Out of a list of "shameful" rumours, that wouldn't make the cut. And in this day and age, virtually everyone has a couple skeletons in their closet.

[Protagonist]

Unless she is HIV positive, why give a shit

Simples, Hoes arent wifey material.

[yungnfresh]

Yung: I'm not getting hitched Honestly, I wouldn't tell my friend if I was 100% certain it was the truth. As for my friend telling me, they'd have to be 100% certain as well.

What if u found out it's actually true, but after the marriage? If that marriage falls apart because of it later, you're gonna feel wack for just sitting on that info the whole time. The way I see it, I wouldn't want my close friend to hide anything from me about something that life-changing...I wanna know what they know, even if they don't know for sure.

There's different outcomes though

A) You tell your friend and he flips shit. Confronts her and she gets cheesed cause he's making her out to be suspect. They call off the wedding. The rumour might have been false, which means you're partially liable for the failed relationship. Or, the rumour is true, and your friend is on to the next.

B) Your friend gets cheesed at you cause he's blinded. Ruins the friendship over something you can't confirm is true or not.

C) He knows and he accepts her for it, and you look like a bastard for thinking it's something that would hinder their relationship. Now you're gonna think ill of his wifey, and things might even be awkward between you two.

D) You keep your mouth shut. If things go down the drain and homeboy asks you why you didn't tell him, you can confidently say you didn't wanna ruin their shot at a marriage over a rumour.

I'm taking the safe route.

A) If they call off the wedding and it was false, they weren't even ready to get married in the first place (at least to each other) if the discussion alone is enough to make the relationship crumble. If it's true and your friend can't deal with knowing that about their fiance, then it's for the best.

B) Your friend is wack then cuz you were only tryna look out. I'd tell them from the beginning that I wasn't even sure if it's true so he'd already know I was just telling him what I heard.

C) If he accepts her for it, then that's on him. Your only obligation as a friend is to tell him what u know, even if u don't know much.

D) D is xasid . If you know your friend is possibly making the biggest mistake of their life, wouldn't u at least let them know about it? The way I see it, if someone who I'm close to heard something and they didn't tell me, that's straightup lyig through omission. I wouldn't want them to tell me "your fiance is that and that" if they weren't sure, but they should tell me exactly what they know so I can make the decision for myself, instead of making the decision for me.

[Alphanumeric]

D) D is xasid . If you know your friend is possibly making the biggest mistake of their life, wouldn't u at least let them know about it? The way I see it, if someone who I'm close to heard something and they didn't tell me, that's straightup lyig through omission. I wouldn't want them to tell me "your fiance is that and that" if they weren't sure, but they should tell me exactly what they know so I can make the decision for myself, instead of making the decision for me.

Making the decision for you, by omitting information that may or may not be true? How?

Unless there was something caught on tape, I'd rather not hear of it.

[yungnfresh]

D) D is xasid . If you know your friend is possibly making the biggest mistake of their life, wouldn't u at least let them know about it? The way I see it, if someone who I'm close to heard something and they didn't tell me, that's straightup lyig through omission. I wouldn't want them to tell me "your fiance is that and that" if they weren't sure, but they should tell me exactly what they know so I can make the decision for myself, instead of making the decision for me.

Making the decision for you, by omitting information that may or may not be true? How?

Unless there was something caught on tape, I'd rather not hear of it.

Making the decision for me by deciding whether or not it's important to look into it...by not telling me, they're deciding it's not.

[Alphanumeric]

D) D is xasid . If you know your friend is possibly making the biggest mistake of their life, wouldn't u at least let them know about it? The way I see it, if someone who I'm close to heard something and they didn't tell me, that's straightup lyig through omission. I wouldn't want them to tell me "your fiance is that and that" if they weren't sure, but they should tell me exactly what they know so I can make the decision for myself, instead of making the decision for me.

Making the decision for you, by omitting information that may or may not be true? How?

Unless there was something caught on tape, I'd rather not hear of it.

Making the decision for me by deciding whether or not it's important to look into it...by not telling me, they're deciding it's not.

But by that logic, every possible rumour and thought about her should be passed your way. Who's to say what is and isn't worthy of sharing?

[Lillaahiya]

A) If they call off the wedding and it was false, they weren't even ready to get married in the first place (at least to each other) if the discussion alone is enough to make the relationship crumble. If it's true and your friend can't deal with knowing that about their fiance, then it's for the best.

Think of how embarrassed and angry your friend would be? I'm sure he wouldn't sit her down and discuss it over afternoon tea and biscuits. They'd prolly fight, which could snowball and lead them to call off the whole thing.

B) Your friend is wack then cuz you were only tryna look out. I'd tell them from the beginning that I wasn't even sure if it's true so he'd already know I was just telling him what I heard.

When emotions run high, people make rash decisions. You could of told him a dozen times you don't know for a fact, and he'd still cut you off. That's just how the cookie crumbs at times.

C) If he accepts her for it, then that's on him. Your only obligation as a friend is to tell him what u know, even if u don't know much.

The only reason you're telling him is because you think it's big enough to ruin the relationship. That means she doesn't even meet your criteria. You're telling me you wouldn't insist he reconsider? And you'd be happy for him if he did go along with it?

D is xasid . If you know your friend is possibly making the biggest mistake of their life, wouldn't u at least let them know about it? The way I see it, if someone who I'm close to heard something and they didn't tell me, that's straightup lyig through omission. I wouldn't want them to tell me "your fiance is that and that" if they weren't sure, but they should tell me exactly what they know so I can make the decision for myself, instead of making the decision for me.

It's not lying at all. It's not something that you positively know happened or is true. And wouldn't you telling your friend just perpetuate this rumour, which could be an exaggeration or lie? And all these options are decisions

[salool]

I would't say a word.wax ilaahy qoray cidna joojin kari mayso ceebta dadkan wa la astura.

[Daff]

If you heard the rumor, ur freind most likely knows already. Find out first if it is true before you say anything.

[yungnfresh]

Alpha, 100%...if this girl has never-ending rumours following her around, that should be a red flag in and of itself anyway cuz where there's smoke, there's fire .

Lillaahiya, how he reacts to it is up to him...my obligation as his friend is to tell him "I heard this and that, I dunno if it's true, but that's how I heard it". Whether he's level-headed in his approach or a hothead is not something I can control...besides, if it's not true and they can't even talk about it without fighting or ending the marriage, then they dunno how to communicate and that marriage was doomed anyway

If he cut me off over that info, waa caadi...I'd rather be 100 with him and he hates me for it, than to stay quiet about something that might not be true...but more importantly, might be true. I'd feel like a snake for hiding it from him if it turned out to be true...it's easier to call off a marriage than to call for a divorce.

If I told him and it turned out it's true but he didn't really mind, then why would I care if he didn't?! At the end of the day, he's the one who's marrying her...I might give him advice and try to talk some sense into him if it's something huge, but I got my own life to live so it's up to him how he lives his. I might think he's an idiot for it, but at least my conscience would be clear.

Ommitting something is still deceptive tho...I'd only expect my friend to tell me exactly what he knows if the roles were reversed. If he said he heard a rumor and it couldn't be verified, I'd take it with a grain of salt. I would expect him to tell me just what he knows tho, cuz if I found out later that it turned out to be true and this nigga knew the whole time but didn't say shit, he'd be cut quicker than a stabbing victim

[salool]

If you heard the rumor, ur freind most likely knows already. Find out first if it is true before you say anything.

Markay labo qof is guursaneyan xaasid oo dhan ba so baxa ilaa iyo xita ka kugu dhow ba skaki kugu ridi.Cidna dhag looma dhigo ilaahy uun ba la isku xidha.Whoever the person is he/she should pray salaatu istakhira and hope for the best.

[Alphanumeric]

Alpha, 100%...if this girl has never-ending rumours following her around, that should be a red flag in and of itself anyway cuz where there's smoke, there's fire .

I see what you mean. But salool's point is also valid. Folks jump at any opportunity to spread misfortune and wedding season is prime time.

[Daff]

If you heard the rumor, ur freind most likely knows already. Find out first if it is true before you say anything.

Markay labo qof is guursaneyan xaasid oo dhan ba so baxa ilaa iyo xita ka kugu dhow ba skaki kugu ridi.Cidna dhag looma dhigo ilaahy uun ba la isku xidha.Whoever the person is he/she should pray salaatu istakhira and hope for the best.

ur avatar is creepy..balayo madow oo indho cad cad cuudi bilahi mina sheyydani rajiim

Ur right that happens most of the time, I am sure everyone has history good or bad, ..what most ppl don't know is maybe they have already discused things and came clean.

[yungnfresh]

Alpha, 100%...if this girl has never-ending rumours following her around, that should be a red flag in and of itself anyway cuz where there's smoke, there's fire .

I see what you mean. But salool's point is also valid. Folks jump at any opportunity to spread misfortune and wedding season is prime time.

True, but the risk of it being true and u not saying anything outweighs the risk of it not being true and you mentioning it. Besides, whether or not it's true is secondary...as a friend, you have the responsibility of letting him know what u know even if it's not a lot, cuz withholding info when it's that important is inexcusable.