Somali Males & Virginity

[Alphanumeric]

Dont you guys get tired of these virginty topics horta? maxa dadka hostooda iin dabo dhigay

right? It's no wonder something like hymen reconstruction exists.

Only arab women do that shit, i doubt any somali girl would go that far to please a man sp cago baasto one.

As long she has a clean hole and you can do ur businnes, does it realy matter how many digged that hole.Just check both of you and move on.

Nope.

[salool]

Alpha, every zaani will end up with zaania so dont worry.You will get the one you deserve.

I just dont understand this obsesstion of marrying a virgin, i think they're scared that they wont be able to please her.
Xabad yaro virgin oo waxba ka ogayn bey rabaan.

[Alphanumeric]

Alpha, every zaani will end up with zaania so dont worry.You will get the one you deserve.

I just dont understand this obsesstion of marrying a virgin, i think they're scared that they wont be able to please her.
Xavad yaro virgin oo waxba ka ogayn bey rabaan.

Nice, pan off a legitimate concern as insecurity.

Plenty folks end up with reformed skanks. Every zani should end up with a zaaniya. That's how I read it.

[salool]

Keep in mind everything is written as well including the one you will end up with.Just put ur trust in Allah and hope for the best.
It's pointless discussing these kinda things, ur past sins wax aad ka qaban kartid ba iska yar but repent.Ceebta dadkan wa la astura, somali girls and somali mens shit and sins should't be discussed in public forum.

[udun]

Keep in mind everything is written as well including the one you will end up with.Just put ur trust in Allah and hope for the best.
It's pointless discussing these kinda things, ur past sins wax aad ka qaban kartid ba iska yar but repent.Ceebta dadkan wa la astura, somali girls and somali mens shit and sins should't be discussed in public forum.

[udun]

Alpha, every zaani will end up with zaania so dont worry.You will get the one you deserve.

I just dont understand this obsesstion of marrying a virgin, i think they're scared that they wont be able to please her.
Xabad yaro virgin oo waxba ka ogayn bey rabaan.

Salool is speaking from an experience prespective

[Alphanumeric]

Keep in mind everything is written as well including the one you will end up with.Just put ur trust in Allah and hope for the best.
It's pointless discussing these kinda things, ur past sins wax aad ka qaban kartid ba iska yar but repent.Ceebta dadkan wa la astura, somali girls and somali mens shit and sins should't be discussed in public forum.

If people can't come online to anonymously discuss pertinent issues in the community that may have an affect on each of us down the line, where the hell can we discuss it? If it shouldn't be discussed, should it even be asked? If it's a non-issue, why is it in the Qur'an? If the ayah is a command, why shouldn't it be discussed in public? If everything's written and we end up with a person regardless of our intentions and actions, why do people even bother with a courtships and engagement processes?

salool, what say you and I get hitched this weekend?


I hope you see the problem with your way of thinking. I understand this topic has been driven into the ground, but it will always be an issue.

[DisplacedDiraac]

Its very important YES.. As important as a female? Very much!

[AhlulbaytSoldier]

Lately its hard to find virgin girls.

[qoraxeey]

Girls don't want virgin guys. Let's be real, they want niggas that know what they're doing.

Parents already told me about what the deen says a long time ago like in middle school. In dugsi we talked about it of course

[Hyperactive]

Are Somali males ever given the speech of making sure to wait until marriage/not to commit Zina by their parents? Have your parents sat you down and talked about how your virginity is an important thing that you should keep until your wedding day for your wife? Do you think if you (faraxs) aren't a virgin, you still deserve a virgin xalimo?

I just would like to see how it is on the opposite side of the spectrum. So, fellas please answer these following questions for us girls and don't be shy. We won't judge. ty!

yes we had conversation with my dad very early age when i was memorizing quran and it's meaning, ahadeeths etc. we talked in depth how effects not only the person morally but as society and it's consequences and why is haraam etc.

it you mean important of virginity: how serious to you the zina crime. very serious and very dangerous act. but would i marry some one committed zina? (im assuming you talking zani who repent). i cannot help my self but to question my self, would i marry a thief, drunk, murderer who repent? my answer until now i dont know, i guess i wouldnt know until im in that position to marry that particular person or not!!

im just wondering why would you any different and we hold crime zina very high culturally?

ps;i totally get it and understand the none muslims, who did everything and became muslims, we shouldnt hold them zina cause shirk which is greater crime they repent from it.

[Alphanumeric]

im just wondering why would you any different and we hold crime zina very high culturally?

It isn't just culture or deen. Most people view cheating as the worst betrayal between two people. I guess, second to murder. I think zina a precursor to it. If they were willing to do it once before, who's to say they wouldn't do it once again?

ps;i totally get it and understand the none muslims, who did everything and became muslims, we shouldnt hold them zina cause shirk which is greater crime they repent from it.

Sometimes I question if i would agree to marrying someone who committed zina, before becoming Muslim.


I know I'm not so great, and I really try not to judge others. But I don't understand this whole "overlook people's past" mentality. If we do that, what's the point in even asking questions before a marriage? I wonder how many of these folks who say overlook a person's past zina would also be fine with a person who's a recovering alcoholic, but who's never had zina?

ARhjasda... why am I always in these threads?

[Hyperactive]

that's valid question, if once they stole how they wouldnt steal again, this time from me which betrayal/cheat. or alkhiyaana as arab cultural people take it "3erth" only or khayana is khayaana!! i dont know.


ps; understanding the reasons or argument isnt the same agreeing. so im neither agreeing or disagreeing but some time you cannot understand their reasoning let a lone to agree or disagree.

[Alphanumeric]

hyper, you kinda lost me.

[Hyperactive]

okay what you want me to explain about my above post?

some times i loose myself too.