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If you really care about this girl or your friend, you would marry her and take responsibilty for her (then you being a 'good' muslim will get her to the straight and narrow path.).
There is nothing else you can do like Basra said.

grandpa

tell your friend to talk to her without judging her. The girl is probably going through some phase. i notice that people who drink to a point of drunkedness always have something in their mind. they are surpressing their pain. the best thing to do for her is --be a friend and not a judge. I recommend going for lunch---that way she is sober and clear thinking--list out reasons that u r on her side, and also how u can together team up to help each other. (meaning her and her brother. grandpa stay out of it with your silent judgements lol)

xasiidsanaa she probably got std's

Somalida qaar baa waalan. wax walba waxay umalaynayaan in nin la'aan ama naag la'aan keento. I know a friend who has mental disorder but they suggested waa in gabar lugu daro.

^ Very popular remedy to mental illness in our community. Qof dhan mustaqbalkooda ayaa la burburiya

Your friend's sister should seek some professional help.

Warn her when she's sober. Tell her to at least be smart about her shit... i.e NOT COME HOME DRUNK!

Since its his older sister, there's nothing he can do but to at least try to talk to her. If she doesn't listen, ay... she's on her own. She's not the first dhoocil to get kicked out of her house!

Until she comes to the realization she has got drinking issues & asks for help, I don't think all the talking on earth/yelling/threatening & advising would work. And the fact that she's coming home drunk shows comfortable she's with her drinking behavior.

Only thing I can say is Ilaahay ha soo hadeeyo ayada iyo inta la midka, ah as well as ourselves.

Grandpa, she may just be a social drinker, but if she's knowingly risking a beating every weekend just to socialize, I suppose there may be an underlying issue. Just tell your friend to have a open talk with her, one that's free of judgement.

I really don't believe that Somalis are more sensitive to the effects of alcohol.

Look at it from a hereditary standpoint. Whites have drank forever. Somalis haven't.

You do realize that there are whites who can barely drink a beer without getting tipsy, and that there are Somalis who can be ten shots deep in less than an hour without being drunk? I'd say it has more so to do with your metabolic tolerance. Also, people can develop a tolerance to alcohol; the more you drink, the better you get at drinking, essentially. But I wouldn't narrow it all down purely to ancestral tradition; that's a bit of an oversimplification.

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whether she drinks a whole bottle of alcohol or just takes a sip is the same to me, drunk=drunk!!

That's nice to know!!

They should kick her the fukk out. Waa kibir ee wax kale mahaa.

Sending her anywhere won't help There's always a bad crowd in every country and she could end up chilling with them. Plus she's not a child anymore, you can't send her anywhere

You should get a sympathetic female you trust to talk to her. If she got beatings and that she probably thinks her family's against her. Basra's right

grand, a Canadian girl in her twenties is expected to be fully independent, or at least able to carry her own weight. Maybe the parents are contributing to her problems by giving her free food and shelter. Just help her get a job (if she doesn't have one) and move out.

one of my close friends he has an older sister who is in her 20s and she always coming home drunk and yakked every weekend. he even told me his dad use to beat her but everytime she keeps coming back drunk. now its at a boiling point where she will be kicked out of the house. he told he needs advise and I said I will come back to it.

what would you advise him to do with his sister. shes not religious btw.

Really sad. I wonder about the prevalence of alcohol abuse among the youth in Canada.

one of my close friends he has an older sister who is in her 20s and she always coming home drunk and yakked every weekend. he even told me his dad use to beat her but everytime she keeps coming back drunk. now its at a boiling point where she will be kicked out of the house. he told he needs advise and I said I will come back to it.

what would you advise him to do with his sister. shes not religious btw.

you don't say.
you should take her out to a pub and talk to her.

I wonder about the prevalence of alcohol abuse among the [somali] youth in Canada

widespread

Kick her out!

faaraxoos yes booze does not go down well with an empty stomach. Fah's assertion that Somalis tolerate less alcohol is hogwash. If anything those who have been imbibing since young tend to digest less with age as a result of liver problems from excessive consumption and the operative here is those who drink more than 4 litres of beer or 500ml of vodka daily...

I think her case maybe more of rebellion and other underlining issue than really booze...

Alcohol isn't the devil so many Somalis make it out to be. Have a cold one on me fellow boozers, to be..cheers.

They should kick her the fukk out. Waa kibir ee wax kale mahaa.

That would def help her. Thanks for your input.