I want to be a strict Muslim :(

[TeAmo]

I really want to start wearing my Jilbab and niqab. I realised this world is only temporary and I should start taking my deen seriously starting with going back to my jilbaby days and add on the niqab to it. I feel really good when I wear it, I feel happy and my heart feels good and it protects you from so much fitna.


The only problem is its hard to work with niqab or jilbab on and I don't want to be discriminated against so should I just wear it instead and if my boss don't like it just quit work, finish my studies and be a house wife

Plus I want to attract religious brothers that are upon the Sunnah not brothers who don't even pray, I want to marry a sheikh or a sholar I got a proposal from a mixed race brother who finished his studies 8 years in Madina university but my dad said no how do I find a knowledgable person to marry I don't mind even if they already have a wife as long as they will teach me the deen and help me get my ticket to Jannah

Wallahi this is depressing me I feel like a shaytaan, I need to change my attitude, dress code and friends and seek more knowledge

[The_Patriot]

You need to marry a Hawiyeh brother asap.

[SultanOrder]

Runti, most people don't understand, wearing a proper hijab and modest clothing is equivalent to wearing Niqaab and Jilbaabs in deeply conservative muslim societies. Remember that you live in the west, and just wearing hijab turns head and draws people to make certain conclusions. It's like the hadith where the Rasul scw said (paraphrasing) "This generation if they leave 1/10 of the religion they will be doomened, while in the later generations if they stick to 1/10 of the religion they will be saved". If your already properly dressed, just focus on character and knowledge, and your outer appearance will follow. You could actually do more for Islam by being more accessible to non-muslims by just wearing hijab, whereas a Niqab might be a barrier to the majority of non-muslims. Also, wearing niqab is sunnah according to majority of scholars, and therefore wearing Hijab which is fard, is actually more ajar. I've some girls who did it as a way to "make up" or as "atonement" for their lack off deen or not so good past, and they haven't always lasted in it, and actually regressed when they stopped. But, if you feel that is the approach you want to take, may illahay make it easy for you, it's really hard and too much for some people, make sure you do it for the right reasons.

[Saraxnow]

Don't make your Islam acting as a bridge for other non-Muslims a priority,leave that now-first focus on yourself so that you don't lag behind on building your iimaan. I'm sick of being reminded of the opinions of gaalos on our actions.

Don't push yourself with regards to the hijab/abaya;take it one at a time, never do it because of peer pressure but on iimaan and a firm decision.

Also, quit being hard on yourself,you're not shaytaan,lol.

[TeAmo]

Perfect order

What part of I want to be a strict Muslim and wanna marry a sholar didn't you understand?

Okay maybe niqab is going too far as of now but I definitely want to start wearing a jilbab from tomorrow on. Coz I feel good when I wear it, it helps me lower my gaze, pray all my Salah and sunnahs and it makes me more aware of my attitude and language and prevents guys from socialising with me.

I want to be proper practising that if I die tomorrow I have hope in going to jannah and right now I can honestly say if I die I know I will go to hell. I'm a flip flipper sometimes I wear jeans sometimes I wear Abaya and sometimes I wear my hijab properly and sometimes I don't bother I don't know whats wrong with me I need Quran Saar.

[SultanOrder]

TeAmo, I didn't say anything contrary to being strict Muslim or marrying a scholar. My point is, to attain your goal, you don't have to carry a cross all at once. And it looks like you want to carry a cross right now.

[Hyperactive]

my advice to you is; build your inner imaan first. the journey may take years. dress code and rest will come as consequence. you do not overwhelm your self and end you give up. ive seen in my life time people come and say i want memorize quran in 2 years and they overwhelm and burn when things didnt come to them easily and they gave up all together.


take it step by step. take your time and do not apologize for your short coming and mistakes. put in your mind you are in work process.

[Barwaaqoiyobashbash]

May Allah make it easy for you inshallah.
I definitely need an imaan boost.

[AmalJaber]

I don't know whats wrong with me

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?

[barakaboy10]

masha Allah. may Allah be pleased with you and make it easy for you in changing your current way of life. i hope you will be successful here and hereafter insha Allah.

i know it is very difficult for our pious Muslim girls to live their lives according to the sharia in the west but just try to do your best insha allah and don't worry about what some might have to say about you.

you wanting to change your life means your iman is very strong.

congratulations and good luck.

[Based]

I don't know whats wrong with me

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?

Proselytizing on a Somali forum?

[Maandhow]

i can't understand when to take your serious

[Colonel]

Runti, most people don't understand, wearing a proper hijab and modest clothing is equivalent to wearing Niqaab and Jilbaabs in deeply conservative muslim societies. Remember that you live in the west, and just wearing hijab turns head and draws people to make certain conclusions. It's like the hadith where the Rasul scw said (paraphrasing) "This generation if they leave 1/10 of the religion they will be doomened, while in the later generations if they stick to 1/10 of the religion they will be saved". If your already properly dressed, just focus on character and knowledge, and your outer appearance will follow. You could actually do more for Islam by being more accessible to non-muslims by just wearing hijab, whereas a Niqab might be a barrier to the majority of non-muslims. Also, wearing niqab is sunnah according to majority of scholars, and therefore wearing Hijab which is fard, is actually more ajar. I've some girls who did it as a way to "make up" or as "atonement" for their lack off deen or not so good past, and they haven't always lasted in it, and actually regressed when they stopped. But, if you feel that is the approach you want to take, may illahay make it easy for you, it's really hard and too much for some people, make sure you do it for the right reasons.

And what a wretched advice this is, verily this is an advice which we do not agree with.

[zulaika]

a goal for all of us..

good luck!