This is the alternate to burying them alive. My daughters (inshaAllah) will have the freedom to do as they please and what they choose to do will be a reflection of my parenting skills. For some reason its OK for some perv in a khamis to have his way with your daughter without her full consent but you wont introduce her to a nice boy from Finland, maybe a son of a relative/friend? Why so extreme??!! Things could be done in a xalaal way and will result in your daughter not hating you. I am pretty sick in the head as I was born back home so even after all of this I would still stay with my family and forget it. Unfortunately for lazy parents who hate their kids, times are changing with this new generation and they need to understand that. Get clued up on who and what is influencing your kids in time or dont come to non Muslim countries at all. Whoever mentioned caydha deserves a medal. Thankfully for me, my father is my role model as he worked up until his retirement but some seem to think that free lacag comes free...It doesnt, the world and your children will judge you for it. SubxanaAllah.