Why is it Ceeb for the girls and Not the Boys

[Minneapolis Mayor]

The higher I climb the academic ladder, the more so many things in Our culture seems rediculous and nonesense to me. I might become dhaqan laawe in the coming years.

Why is it a good thing for a son to ask his parent to look for him a wife to marry when he has s*exual desires but it is Ceeb for the daughter to ask her parent to look for him a nice husband to marry? Aren't they both your children and need their desires taken care of? I am just surprised how the parents descriminate their children and favor one over the other even in something which is a need. You will hear the fathers brag about how ay gabar fiican wiilkooda ugu rabaan in ay kudarsadaan but not mention the daughters.

Do you guys think this is a fair way to treat your children?

[bluelovelady]

If you are in school and busy with your work, your father or uncle should help you with finding a good husband. It is almost impossible to find someone when you are working hard. I'm sure your father has many friends that have good sons that are looking for wife.

Tell him if he doesn't help you that you will marry a white guy because at work there are tons of white guys available after all to pick from. But good Somali guys are hard to find unless you have time to go into community life. I'm sure your father will find more than a few candidates for you.

[Minneapolis Mayor]

bluelady,

Abaayo please stop smoking crack. I am a guy and you are telling me my father will find me a gay. Please stop promoting gay life here. If you are attracted to women, Some of us are very religious and conservative.

[SelfD]

On an experience basis, i noticed that the only time young girls are arranged by the parents is when they act up and need to be tamed.


And boys are u usually harassed by pushy aunties who are looking to arrange their daughters.

[Shirib]

Traditionally men and go and pursue while women are pursued. It's rational for the family of a man to ask for a girl. On the other hand it looks desperate for a the family of a woman to go and ask a man to marry their daughter. This isn't just Somali culture, but pretty much the same worldwide.

[Adali]

a guy who ask his parents for a wife is weak and pathetic, it is the parents duty to hide the shame of the family, such men are most likely to become unmarried cajuus, real men pursue their women and end up married relatively young, worthy women are the ones who get pursued and also end up getting hitched at young age. Again, if the girl hasn't gotten any love letters or any "serious" attention from decent males, then the Parents will move to hide the shame by marrying her off to a useless male from within the family.

it is ceeb in both cases.

[bluelovelady]

Sorry MN thought you were a girl because of the question. My mistake.

[STARKAST]

Adali someone shattered you're heart right ?