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when you pretend you are happy and smiling

That's your problem right there. Never be in a relationship you have to pretend something you're not.

ok don't pretend but how about changing your ways? ..say like if the person you're in a relationship with is changing u for the better. would you change for that person?

Changing a person would imply that one person in the relationship didn't like certain characteristics of the other, and if that's the case I don't see how anyone in their right mind would be with someone whose behavior they didn't like in the first place. In a perfect lalaland world relationships would have only two gears, either accept a person for who they are or don't be in the relationship at all. Sadly that ain't the f-king case, far too often do we see a woman trying to change a man. Now a woman might succeed in changing a man, but that poor bastard will be miserable for the rest of his life. Let's be honest shall we, just like true happiness true change comes from within, not from someone else. People should change on their own goddamn terms, not at someone else's.

^*nods*

Or, simply opt out of the "relationship" facade.

move this to the women section. These somalife kids turned this forum into a flower circle

Changing a person would imply that one person in the relationship didn't like certain characteristics of the other, and if that's the case I don't see how anyone in their right mind would be with someone whose behavior they didn't like in the first place. In a perfect lalaland world relationships would have only two gears, either accept a person for who they are or don't be in the relationship at all. Sadly that ain't the f-king case, far too often do we see a woman trying to change a man. Now a woman might succeed in changing a man, but that poor bastard will be miserable for the rest of his life. Let's be honest shall we, just like true happiness true change comes from within, not from someone else. People should change on their own goddamn terms, not at someone else's.

Ok maybe "change" is a strong word for some men..it elicits a barking tone the smears the intended viewpoint. perhaps "inspire" is better word to convey my sentiments..

there are situations where a woman inspired a man to leave behind a destructive lifestyle to which he had been previously accustomed to.. he recognizes the detrimental effect of his past ways only after coming in contact with the woman in his life who is inspiring, supporting and helping him through the transition to become a better man. This does not take away his ability to judge his ways and choose for himself but too often women tend to encroach upon the will of their men to nepherious ends..and the cloud of gender warfare impedes.. and we have what see today.. bark bark b!tch b!tch..

Changing a person would imply that one person in the relationship didn't like certain characteristics of the other, and if that's the case I don't see how anyone in their right mind would be with someone whose behavior they didn't like in the first place. In a perfect lalaland world relationships would have only two gears, either accept a person for who they are or don't be in the relationship at all. Sadly that ain't the f-king case, far too often do we see a woman trying to change a man. Now a woman might succeed in changing a man, but that poor bastard will be miserable for the rest of his life. Let's be honest shall we, just like true happiness true change comes from within, not from someone else. People should change on their own goddamn terms, not at someone else's.

Ok maybe "change" is a strong word for some men..it elicits a barking tone the smears the intended viewpoint. perhaps "inspire" is better word to convey my sentiments..

there are situations where a woman inspired a man to leave behind a destructive lifestyle to which he had been previously accustomed to.. he recognizes the detrimental effect of his past ways only after coming in contact with the woman in his life who is inspiring, supporting and helping him through the transition to become a better man. This does not take away his ability to judge his ways and choose for himself but too often women tend to encroach upon the will of their men to nepherious ends..and the cloud of gender warfare impedes.. and we have what see today.. bark bark b!tch b!tch..

Now you're just splitting hair, "change" is what it's really called, you can sugarcoat it all you want by calling it "inspire", but that doesn't nullify my f-king point. It's kind of pathetic when a goddamn holier than thou woman assumes her way is the right way and does everything in her f-king power to change a man and make him to be more aligned with her lifestyle while she does diddly squat to change herself. I guess it's women's nature to change things around them to their liking, but truth be told I honestly pity women who shake douchebag-tree and expect a good guy to fall out.

move this to the women section. These somalife kids turned this forum into a flower circle

Agent,

ok point taken

Now you're just splitting hair, "change" is what it's really called, you can sugarcoat it all you want by calling it "inspire", but that doesn't nullify my f-king point. It's kind of pathetic when a goddamn holier than thou woman assumes her way is the right way and does everything in her f-king power to change a man and make him to be more aligned with her lifestyle while she does diddly squat to change herself. I guess it's women's nature to change things around them to their liking, but truth be told I honestly pity women who shake douchebag-tree and expect a good guy to fall out.

Sounds like you feel very strongly about the subject.

I'd like to point out that it's more fixing than just idly changing. From observation most women are attracted to something that they perceive to be broken in a man and want to be the ones to fix it.

when you are not feeling good go to your woman and rest on her bosom for a while, I use to do that when I was with my x-gfriend.

move this to the women section. These somalife kids turned this forum into a flower circle

Father Desmond has spoken.

Now you're just splitting hair, "change" is what it's really called, you can sugarcoat it all you want by calling it "inspire", but that doesn't nullify my f-king point. It's kind of pathetic when a goddamn holier than thou woman assumes her way is the right way and does everything in her f-king power to change a man and make him to be more aligned with her lifestyle while she does diddly squat to change herself. I guess it's women's nature to change things around them to their liking, but truth be told I honestly pity women who shake douchebag-tree and expect a good guy to fall out.

Sounds like you feel very strongly about the subject.

I'd like to point out that it's more fixing than just idly changing. From observation most women are attracted to something that they perceive to be broken in a man and want to be the ones to fix it.

Listen feminazi, if you want to "fix" something, then go fix your oxymoronic laced point of view. Fix kulaha.

Listen feminazi, if you want to "fix" something, then go fix your oxymoronic laced point of view. Fix kulaha.

From the pic you posted you are clearly crying out for help. If you feel oppressed by women just say so, there will be some homey girl ready to rescue you and fix your broken spirit. You can sit around and moan about feminism all day while she strokes your fragile ego.

-Free advice from a feminazi.

What I would like is not hearing bullshit if you don't mind.