Cliffnotes:
No one wants to talk about shame, but this is what underpins excruciating vulnerability.
People who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging.
Courage is telling the story of who you are with your whole heart.
Compassion is to be kind to yourself first, then others. We can't be kind to others without being kind to ourselves.
Connection is the result of authenticity. The willingness to let go of who you think you should be in order to be who you really are.
Vulnerability is believing what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. Vulnerability is necessary.
You can't selectively numb emotion. Grief, shame, disappointment and vulnerability. When you numb these feelings, you numb joy, gratitude, happiness and then, we are miserable and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and we feel vulnerable, so we try to numb vulnerability.
The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are. There's no conversation or discourse. Blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort.
We try to perfect our lives. We are wired for struggle as children, but we are still worthy of love and belonging.
Allow yourself to be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen. Love with your whole heart even though there's no guarantee. Practice gratitude and joy.
Lastly, believe that you're enough. Once we believe we're enough, we stop screaming and start listening. We're kinder and gentler to the people around us.
This is amazing.
