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A recent study out from Cornell University finds that, when it comes to selecting female friends, college-aged women seem to prefer prudes, placing the sexually adventurous among them at risk for social stigmatization and isolation, researchers say.

• For the study, 751 college students provided information about their past sexual experience and their views on casual sex. They read a near-identical vignette about a male or female peer, with the only difference being the character’s number of lifetime sexual partners (two or 20). Researchers asked them to rate the person on a range of friendship factors, including warmth, competence, morality, emotional stability and overall likability.
  
  Across all female participants, women — regardless of their own promiscuity — viewed sexually permissive women more negatively on nine of ten friendship attributes, judging them more favorably only on their outgoingness. Permissive men only identified two measures, mate guarding and dislike of sexuality, where they favored less sexually active men as friends, showing no preference or favoring the more promiscuous men on the eight other variables; even more sexually modest men preferred the non-permissive potential friend in only half of all variables.

• On the one hand, there is a very well-established finding in sociology and psychology that people become friends and lovers with those similar to them in all sorts of characteristics (demographics, intelligence, attitudes, etc.) — called homophily. So based on the homophily principle, we expected that promiscuous people might like other promiscuous people as friends.
  
  On the other hand, promiscuity is not the same as say, age or intelligence. There are social and evolutionary benefits to not being friends with a promiscuous person even if you are promiscuous yourself. Prior research shows that promiscuous people are more likely to cheat on their partners or “poach” other people’s mates, so a promiscuous same-sex friend poses an evolutionary threat to your own romantic relationship (and this threat should affect promiscuous and non-promiscuous people similarly)

• I [Zhana Vrangalova] analyzed that data a few weeks ago and more promiscuous women (and men) do not appear to be any more isolated or lonely, which is really interesting and requires further research into why and how they manage to maintain friendships and sense of connectedness despite being rejected from females as friends and from men as long-term partners (which other studies have showed).

This is profoundly interesting to me because I only have female friends. I prefer female friends. I feel comfortable, safe and liberated by my female friends. However, I've never thought maybe I attract so many female friends because I'm sexually inhibited. I'm not at all threatening. My friends introduce me to their boyfriends/fiancées to get my opinion on whether or not I like them. I have promiscuous friends, but as an educated woman, I'm not going to judge them on that criteria alone. I've even had a friend of mine ask me for my opinion about being intimate with a guy she's interested in. I was like, if you're comfortable and consenting, why not? I have had my female friends look to me as a moral authority, and I wish that didn't happen.

Discuss.

Doesn't matter, she is fucked by society either way, if she hasn't done it then world labels her as a prude, if she has done it then she is labeled a slut.

Female friendships are not like male friendships. They're composed of several complex networks and unspoken cues. In Somali culture, young girls are encouraged to compete with each other. However, women empower each other. That's the difference.

Doesn't matter, she is fucked by society either way, if she hasn't done it then world labels her as a prude, if she has done it then she is labeled a slut.

Literally?

Empower each other?

As an educated, mentally liberated black man I must say I profoundly resonate with this topic on a..profound level.

I said women as in adult, mature, educated, well-adjusted women who will most likely have professional lives.

As an educated, mentally liberated black man I must say I profoundly resonate with this topic on a..profound level.

Ooo, just what I'm looking for. What's that credit score looking like?

Empower each other?

As an educated, mentally liberated black man I must say I profoundly resonate with this topic on a..profound level.

Ooo, just what I'm looking for. What's that credit score looking like?

Pretty bad actually, sorry. I have a nice car though? Idk work with me here

Pretty bad actually, sorry. I have a nice car though? Idk work with me here

• Do you have a criminal record?
  Are you willing to relocate?
  Does your country of citizenship offer universal healthcare?
  Most importantly, are you or have you ever been married, separated or divorced?

I know this has nothing to do with race, but I will make it about race.

This black woman once told me that all her white female friends were cool with her until she started dating attractive white men. Then they suddenly saw her as a threat, as in "know your place, black woman". Next time you out, keep an eye out for white/black female friends. White women love to have a chubby unattractive black woman as a friend. They will never befriend a hot black woman. But they have no problem befriending hot white women.... White women are insecure entitled creatures like that lol.

Just my observation.

Pretty bad actually, sorry. I have a nice car though? Idk work with me here

• Do you have a criminal record?
  Are you willing to relocate?
  Does your country of citizenship offer universal healthcare?
  Most importantly, are you or have you ever been married, separated or divorced?

If Keyblade dont meet your criteria, holla at me.

1/ No
2. I'll relocate within Europe. Dont wanna move to North America.
3. Yes
4. No, never

If Keyblade dont meet your criteria, holla at me.

1/ No
2. I'll relocate within Europe. Dont wanna move to North America.
3. Yes
4. No, never

I'll be waiting for you in my inbox. Hurry.

A recent study out from Cornell University finds that, when it comes to selecting female friends, college-aged women seem to prefer prudes, placing the sexually adventurous among them at risk for social stigmatization and isolation, researchers say.

• For the study, 751 college students provided information about their past sexual experience and their views on casual sex. They read a near-identical vignette about a male or female peer, with the only difference being the character’s number of lifetime sexual partners (two or 20). Researchers asked them to rate the person on a range of friendship factors, including warmth, competence, morality, emotional stability and overall likability.
  
  Across all female participants, women — regardless of their own promiscuity — viewed sexually permissive women more negatively on nine of ten friendship attributes, judging them more favorably only on their outgoingness. Permissive men only identified two measures, mate guarding and dislike of sexuality, where they favored less sexually active men as friends, showing no preference or favoring the more promiscuous men on the eight other variables; even more sexually modest men preferred the non-permissive potential friend in only half of all variables.

• On the one hand, there is a very well-established finding in sociology and psychology that people become friends and lovers with those similar to them in all sorts of characteristics (demographics, intelligence, attitudes, etc.) — called homophily. So based on the homophily principle, we expected that promiscuous people might like other promiscuous people as friends.
  
  On the other hand, promiscuity is not the same as say, age or intelligence. There are social and evolutionary benefits to not being friends with a promiscuous person even if you are promiscuous yourself. Prior research shows that promiscuous people are more likely to cheat on their partners or “poach” other people’s mates, so a promiscuous same-sex friend poses an evolutionary threat to your own romantic relationship (and this threat should affect promiscuous and non-promiscuous people similarly)

• I [Zhana Vrangalova] analyzed that data a few weeks ago and more promiscuous women (and men) do not appear to be any more isolated or lonely, which is really interesting and requires further research into why and how they manage to maintain friendships and sense of connectedness despite being rejected from females as friends and from men as long-term partners (which other studies have showed).

This is profoundly interesting to me because I only have female friends. I prefer female friends. I feel comfortable, safe and liberated by my female friends. However, I've never thought maybe I attract so many female friends because I'm sexually inhibited. I'm not at all threatening. My friends introduce me to their boyfriends/fiancées to get my opinion on whether or not I like them. I have promiscuous friends, but as an educated woman, I'm not going to judge them on that criteria alone. I've even had a friend of mine ask me for my opinion about being intimate with a guy she's interested in. I was like, if you're comfortable and consenting, why not? I have had my female friends look to me as a moral authority, and I wish that didn't happen.

Discuss.

Maybe they think you're unattractive, hence they dont see you as a threat for male attention.

*Im not saying you are unattractive, maybe they are.