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I'm having an amazing time alhamdulilah, I feel like never returning to qurbo but circumstances don't permit me as yet; that is not why I started this thread. I'm trying to pick your brains on a certain issue.

If given the opportunity and Allah has given you a second chance to be involved with someone would you go ahead and try, if so how on earth would you go about it.

Please allow me to explain.
I've only truly cared about two women (in terms of man and woman relations) in my life, one May Allah swt place her among the best muslims in Jannah. The other, Friday after Jumma prayer I ran into her at the most unlikeliest places without no expectations whatsoever, in a Mombasa mall. It was a shock surprise, all kinds of mixed emotions. I was with my brother and a friend and she was with family and friends. Tongue tied I blubbered some random greetings, luckily my big bro who knew about our history came to rescue me out of the predicament I was in. It felt like seeing an ex-wife you haven't seen for a long time ago, Its awkward seeing someone you were close to which you haven't spoke in 6 years for the first time, its even more awkward when its a public place and bunch of random people standing around.

Throughout the entire ordeal or at least at the end of it I was telling myself, you only need a 16 seconds of courage to either pull her away from the group or get her number, I couldn't do either I had zero courage. I walked away hesitantly after saying 'it was good to see you'. My brother who is shameless got her number of her and gave it to me and he also has been on my case about the whole thing. I've the number, I called and said hi, asked general questions and hanged up after few minutes (retared).

Well since then I been staring at the number and I don't know what to do with it. She is not married, I have no clue if she is linked to anybody but my brother reckons she is not and bushing me to get involved, even threatening to go to her himself on my behalf. What the hell to do good people of Som'net.???

Hopefully no silly negative comments..

First off I'm happy to see that you're doing well.

I would say have a conversation, on the phone or face to face whichever feels more comfortable and see if you still have that connection. That's step one and when you feel ready, go from there. Don't psych yourself out, don't over think it.

My advice is have lunch, if you realise there's something there it could be the beginning of something, if not it's just two old friends catching up.

So you had a crush on this girl, once upon atime and now you met her again. You have a number. Call her than but before you do that get a grip.

Jasmine's advice

Maybe she feels the same way about you. Don't wait around, take her out to lunch and see where you go from there.

As some members said try to have some form of conversation/general talking with her and see how it goes. you didnt mentioned how it ended on ur pervious life but regardless of it i believe since you knew each other once upon a time you can guys still talk.

^ Depends if he screwed her over back in the day

Luci, they can still talk not that m saying he will get her back but i always believed people should main some channels of communication.

Am really glad you are having these feelings again if you didnt make a mess of it the first time, go for it. Dont forget you have a child now so things might be different on her part, so dont put all hopes into it. Good luck and let us know how it goes

Catch up with her, at the very least. Don't expect anything, but take her out and talk. No regrets.

Yeah it doesn't hurt having a catch-up. Just make sure u don't get trapped by false signals. Women are confused bunch they act/speak one way but really think the opposite. So don't be hasty and don't talk alot, let her do all the talking most of the time.

wish u all the best sxb

1nemansquad can u hook up your brother with alpha? I mean, after the pertinent before intercourse tests of course.

1nemansquad can u hook up your brother with alpha? I mean, after the pertinent before intercourse tests of course.

I hope your husband cheats on you, bringing home the HPV, which ultimately results in cervical cancer and a hysterectomy, leaving you barren and unable to reproduce, thus, making the world a better place.

Sincerely.

1nemansquad can u hook up your brother with alpha? I mean, after the pertinent before intercourse tests of course.

I hope your husband cheats on you, bringing home the HPV, which ultimately results in cervical cancer and a hysterectomy, leaving you barren and unable to reproduce, thus, making the world a better place.

Sincerely.

1nemansquad can u hook up your brother with alpha? I mean, after the pertinent before intercourse tests of course.

I hope your husband cheats on you, bringing home the HPV, which ultimately results in cervical cancer and a hysterectomy, leaving you barren and unable to reproduce, thus, making the world a better place.

Sincerely.

inanta ka xishood bro