Married folks who take separate vacations

[zulaika]

Salaams everyone,

If you are married or when u get married...

How do you guys feel about vacationing solo without the wife/kids and vice versa.. time alone for him/her. Good or bad idea? Personally I don't mind if my husband takes solo vacation, but I would have a problem if he does this every time.

Another reason this could pose marital rift is if either one feels slighted or is suspicious their significant other would prefer to spend time off from work alone ...if such case, clearly there are trust issues that should be sorted

your thoughts, please and thank you!

[Murax]

Damn..Even as a selfish guy I consider that selfish

[Lillaahiya]

No way. I'd be super offended if my husband needed to book a vacay for 'alone time'.

[HooBariiska]

some dumar are madax xanuun and the only way to keep the relationship goin is long vacation alone

[Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE]

The only time he can take a vacation alone is markaan dhinto...inta noolahay agtayda un bu fadhin

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

If you're a married person and you leave your spouse behind when you go on "vacations"...

[Jam Street]

If she is always taking a vocation on her own she is basically saying "nigga, I want you to give me some space to breathe...have had enough of your ugly face." Or if he is the one leaving alone he is basically saying "b!tch, please..."

But you are right zulaika, if it is something that happens all the time it is not a good sign.

[Amirsade]

What's the point of vacation, if you leave your love ones behind. I take business trip and is hard to sleep in bed alone.

[SelfD]

I dont see the point unless it is family emergency...otherwise you plan and do it together as a family. Solo trips are a sign of marital issues to me.

[SummerRain]

Somali people always do this, and it's a bit strange. I'm not sure why married couple would want "alone" time. If it's a once in a while trip where he or I go with friends or other family members, I think that is ok.

[Niya]

Khalil Gibran's quote comes to mind:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”

[SelfD]

Ok first of all..there are some indivduals in relationships that demand a lot of alone time and there are others that enjoy spending lots of time with their partner.

I think people should be with those with similar preference for solo or couple time. Otherwise it will leave one feeling suffocated and the other feeling neglected.

[NonSomaliGuy]

Once I knew a girl's father who did this every year. It was pretty sad as she got to see him few weeks then he's off to somewhere where she won't be seeing him for a long time. Girl's mother did this as well but not as often.

Too bad that girl went off from the path of Islam. I think that's pretty rare around here.

[Nomand]

you need a break from the wife and kids, this will also create more love as you miss them and they miss you. i think this is very healthy.

i would take a selfie vacation.

[FarhanYare]

you need a break from the wife and kids, this will also create more love as you miss them and they miss you. i think this is very healthy.

i would take a selfie vacation.

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