Married folks who take separate vacations

[BlackVelvet]

I am pro personal space, for the most part. Lakinse what is "separate vacations"? Going to Malaysia for a week on your own? That's pushing it a bit too far. A weekend spa break alone/friends, a weekend out with his friends, a week away with your family...certain things make sense. Lakin I want to go on holiday (a proper one with hotels and flights) alone sounds dodgy as hell.

[Tuushi]

you need a break from the wife and kids, this will also create more love as you miss them and they miss you. i think this is very healthy.

i would take a selfie vacation.

They do also say ''out of sight,out of mind''

We all are different.Some people need space to recharge.It doesnt mean they love their family any less.

[Arabman]

I think taking vacation is a foreign culture. I don't think the Sahaba took vacation.

[Navy9]

Khalil Gibran's quote comes to mind:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”

but he never got married, right? If my memory is accurate! He lived in a world of his own.

[zulaika]

The only time he can take a vacation alone is markaan dhinto...inta noolahay agtayda un bu fadhin

it's ok to let him go somewhere without u once in a while. It's really not that big of a deal..it's when they make a habit of it, you'll start to wonder why his trying to get away from u..hmm. my husband went to World Cup in South Africa with his brother and friend, it didn't bother me, even though i was very hormonal at the time

likewise, I went to Hong Kong last year with my friend who was shopping for her store..it didn't bother him.

[AbdiWahab252]

These married people and their separate vacation are simply trying to recapture their bacheler/bacheloretteness. Of the married Faraxs whom I have vacationed with, most were out to have some fun and enjoy the single life for a few days. They are more aggressive, more gungho about living it up. I don't blame them: nagging wives at home & not being given space to breath.

Faraxs, just remember, don't leave any evidence of your vacation and what happens out of town should stay there.

[gurey25]

thats the stupidest thing ever.
I take my wife everywhere.
the only time we have separate vacations is when she doesnt want to go to the homeland, and i do.
then its easy she goes to her family and i go to somaliland.

[gurey25]

These married people and their separate vacation are simply trying to recapture their bacheler/bacheloretteness. Of the married Faraxs whom I have vacationed with, most were out to have some fun and enjoy the single life for a few days. They are more aggressive, more gungho about living it up. I don't blame them: nagging wives at home & not being given space to breath.

Faraxs, just remember, don't leave any evidence of your vacation and what happens out of town should stay there.

you should get all that out of your system.
if you still have the need after marriage , then you are a loser.

[AbdiWahab252]

These married people and their separate vacation are simply trying to recapture their bacheler/bacheloretteness. Of the married Faraxs whom I have vacationed with, most were out to have some fun and enjoy the single life for a few days. They are more aggressive, more gungho about living it up. I don't blame them: nagging wives at home & not being given space to breath.

Faraxs, just remember, don't leave any evidence of your vacation and what happens out of town should stay there.

you should get all that out of your system.
if you still have the need after marriage , then you are a loser.

Don't be quick to judge others. Wait until your 7th year of marriage.

[SultanOrder]

Define vacation:
A period of time where you are away from your home for non-work related reasons, like visiting family?

or

Going to say Hawaii, where you are going specifically for recreation and enjoyment

The first one, people do that all the time. The second one is an eye-raiser. Unless it is with a group of friends like your husband going to the world cup, which is more gender related, guys kind of thing, just like going shopping to another city, girl kind of thing.

But if she is going to the Bahamas, even with a group of friends, it's where we end, and she can pick up her single life with her friends.

[GeoSeven]

According to the proverb, absence makes the heart grow fonder

[salool]

Caruurtu markay sii badato labada qof mar kasta ma wada dhoofi karaan.As long he is not traveling for saqajaanimu and not for to long wa iska caadi.

[salool]

The only time he can take a vacation alone is markaan dhinto...inta noolahay agtayda un bu fadhin

Good luck with that.

[kambuli]

Mar haddii lagaa dhoofo, waa lagaa dhoofey..

[ToughGong]

This is only an issue if there is no trust