I don't think nice men finish last. I will tell you that anyone is capable of being nice, its situational. Even a serial killer can be.
One must differentiate between nice and kind. The latter being more important. I also think its important to have boundaries
you can't simply drop everything for a female and be a doormat.
Interesting conversation. I think someone interjected - social stratum into this debate. It must be tough where oxidant lives. I mean comparing yourself to someone with less melanin. I don't think a self-respecting Somali female would care. In fact, there are plenty that don't seek the affections of others. Not because they can't marry someone successful that's ajnabi, but because they choose to stick with nin Somali.
I don't know if you are aware but historically speaking in Somaliland the English were forbidden to marry gabar Somali. There was one case where a military officer tried to, but the girl was stolen back by her clansmen. That's real Somali pride.

Not insecure people comparing themselves to other groups.
