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Disrespectful Men

Postby Sophisticate » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:00 am

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These men are absolutely detestable. I never got why some men on here have the gall to insult or objectify women. Then I remembered trying to appeal to their sense of morality is not the approach to take. They probably see nothing wrong with what they are doing. From their lens it’s the status quo – “all females are hoes waiting to be exposed” or “merely bitches for failing to cooperate” especially when they “fall out of line and start mouthing off.” You know what they say if he doesn't respect the females in his life there’s no way he'll respect you. Let’s just say he does respect the ladies in his life, but holds deeply misogynistic attitudes, then lady don't expect him to refrain from spewing pure vitriol.


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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby inaXasan » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:08 am

today's society teaches them that all women are "Hoes" and only few are good, while it's actually vice versa.

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby YummyMummy » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:21 am

Good points Sophie. I'm not as quick to tar them all with the same brush as they tar us, their own womenfolk, but I would say that there is no loss or gain either way. Hadal muxuu kaa dhimi hadduu foolxunyahay, muxuu se kuu kordhin hadduu caqiimo leeyahay? It doesn't affect our daily lives, so we why should we care?

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby Amira143 » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:24 am

These so called "men" were dragged up, not brought up to be honest. Them being demeaning and distasteful towards females only reflects their own insecurities. :roll:

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby BeyondQabil » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:25 am

today's society teaches them that all women are "Hoes" and only few are good, while it's actually vice versa.
Yours is an Illogical conclusion; how can ALL women be GOOD and only FEW be WHORES?

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby zumaale » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:28 am

Truth be told, from a Somali perspective Naag Bikra eheen weey dhiilowde! From an Islamic perspective, she is a zani no different than a man who has committed zina. However, there is a Hadith by the Prophet SAWS where he stated that its better to marry a virgin for obvious reasons.

But does a woman who does not guard her honour deserve to be respected unless she has done repentance? I mean the nature of the game is that men are the predators and women the prey generally. Imagine making a wifey of a chick that has a promiscuous history and the jokes being made at your expense in our community.

I seen a chick that had been roasted in one form or the other married and a guy points her out saying its so and so.... It takes a lot of iman to go through with that. Not knowing whether the Somali guy in the check out next to you has tapped her ceeb or worse inserted things into her mouth!

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby zumaale » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:28 am

Truth be told, from a Somali perspective Naag Bikra eheen weey dhiilowde! From an Islamic perspective, she is a zani no different than a man who has committed zina. However, there is a Hadith by the Prophet SAWS where he stated that its better to marry a virgin for obvious reasons.

But does a woman who does not guard her honour deserve to be respected unless she has done repentance? I mean the nature of the game is that men are the predators and women the prey generally. Imagine making a wifey of a chick that has a promiscuous history and the jokes being made at your expense in our community.

I seen a chick that had been roasted in one form or the other married and a guy points her out saying its so and so.... It takes a lot of iman to go through with that. Not knowing whether the Somali guy in the check out next to you has tapped her ceeb or worse inserted things into her mouth!

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby 0sman » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:31 am

Truth be told, from a Somali perspective Naag Bikra eheen weey dhiilowde! From an Islamic perspective, she is a zani no different than a man who has committed zina. However, there is a Hadith by the Prophet SAWS where he stated that its better to marry a virgin for obvious reasons.

But does a woman who does not guard her honour deserve to be respected unless she has done repentance? I mean the nature of the game is that men are the predators and women the prey generally. Imagine making a wifey of a chick that has a promiscuous history and the jokes being made at your expense in our community.

I seen a chick that had been roasted in one form or the other married and a guy points her out saying its so and so.... It takes a lot of iman to go through with that. Not knowing whether the Somali guy in the check out next to you has tapped her ceeb or worse inserted things into her mouth!

So it only works one way? What about if a guy is Zani & has had sexual relationships before marriage? That's just fine and dandy? :lupe:

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby zumaale » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:38 am

^ So it only works one way? What about if a guy is Zani & has sexual relationships before marriage? That's just fine and dandy? :lupe:
Like it or not Osman, even in liberal western societies, a man is never tarnished for his promiscuity. As a matter of fact, how many women lust after an inexperienced virginal male? Unlike men, women are not guaranteed a climax and their libido varies from individual to individual. Hence, the more experienced the sexual partner, the higher likelihood that they might find what stimulates them.

Hey, shit ain't fair but be grateful that you are a man!

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby inaXasan » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:40 am

today's society teaches them that all women are "Hoes" and only few are good, while it's actually vice versa.
Yours is an Illogical conclusion; how can ALL women be GOOD and only FEW be WHORES?
that was seriously out of context. by "few" I meant the minority. Yes Majority of women are good

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby 0sman » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:47 am

^ So it only works one way? What about if a guy is Zani & has sexual relationships before marriage? That's just fine and dandy? :lupe:
Like it or not Osman, even in liberal western societies, a man is never tarnished for his promiscuity. As a matter of fact, how many women lust after an inexperienced virginal male? Unlike men, women are not guaranteed a climax and their libido varies from individual to individual. Hence, the more experienced the sexual partner, the higher likelihood that they might find what stimulates them.

Hey, shit ain't fair but be grateful that you are a man!
You're mixing up two issues here, mate. What society expects of a woman and what religion says. You can't have your bariis and eat at the same time. Though misogynistic, I can at least understand if you agree with societal norms but if you bring "God said this and the Prophet said that" then it's a fair game for both sexes.

Don't have the energy and time to get deeper into this (and though I am not religious at all) but if you drag religion into this and say "the Prophet stated that it's better to marry a virgin for obvious reasons" then have a look Surat Al-Nur , verse 3:
Let no man guilty of
Adultery or fornication marry
Any but a woman
Similarly guilty, or an Unbeliever:
Nor let any but such a man
Or an Unbeliever
Marry such a woman:
To the Believers such a thing
Is forbidden.

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby zumaale » Sat Oct 18, 2014 6:59 am

I am not arguing for one or the other. If you want to know my personal beliefs it is what is stated int he Quran and the Hadiths of the Prophet SAWS. I was being the devils advocate by highlighting cultural norms and practices.

But, you cannot deny the reason why women are disadvantaged in pre-marital sex in comparison to men is that every time a woman consents to sex, her orgasm is at the mercy of the man. If he is a selfish prick, it can last a short time or be very mechanical. Hence, why I said be grateful you are a man. Furthermore, that is why I believe if a woman chooses to have sex with random men she is selling herself short because she does not know what she is getting herself into, its a case of fuck and hope. I mean why would one bother to be considerate in the sack if the female is a one night stand.

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby 0sman » Sat Oct 18, 2014 7:01 am

OK

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby Tuushi » Sat Oct 18, 2014 7:34 am

Having a bias and acting on them are two different things.Shit that gets spewed here has always been repetitive and annoying but i doubt most of them say or do these stuff in real life.If they do,they must be the loneliest bunch of skinnies.

When it is all said and done.Only one thing matters to a muslim woman.Where does Allah stand on this.As long as i am getting judged for my sins equally,who cares.Allah is Just. :blessed:

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Re: Disrespectful Men

Postby zumaale » Sat Oct 18, 2014 7:47 am

Having a bias and acting on them are two different things.Shit that gets spewed here has always been repetitive and annoying but i doubt most of them say or do these stuff in real life.If they do,they must be the loneliest bunch of skinnies.

When it is all said and done.Only one thing matters to a muslim woman.Where does Allah stand on this.As long as i am getting judged for my sins equally,who cares.Allah is Just. :blessed:
Tuushi, what if during courtship a man states a preference for marrying a virgin and asks politely if you are one? What then? Its not about being judged, its about an individual's preference. He will find out anyway unless the chick has resorted to corrective surgery.

I personally would ask, not because I want a virgin necessarily, but due to a fear of STD's. If I find her compatible and she is not a virgin, I would be like lets get tested huuno, no nasty surprises in Saarir.


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