I was not expecting this from you of all people sxb.
Just because I criticise the sad state of the Somali man and the stark reality we live in, you imply I have the problems? In no way in any shape or form does this detract any merit from my views. I can be proud to be Somali, a true patriot and still criticise my brothers.
I mean seriously, instead of actually addressing this you want me to push things under the rug? If your brother was doing doing hard drugs, commiting zina and that balaayo nonsense wouldn't you criticise him?
It's called tough love sxb.
I'm just not big on generalisations.
But I know what you mean, however tough love never works on people after a certain point. We as young men and women need to bring up our children better than our fathers and mothers. I do have family members who are not succeeding in material life, but what I find funny is that often times they are actually better human beings than the so called peeps in my family who are succeeding from peoples perspective. The former tend to be extremely selfish and backstabbing, whereas these guys are often times genuine and even humble despite all of their problems.
Cultural issues like Qaad and FGM need education, and there are many who are working towards making improvements. Many families no longer practice FGM and there are activists who campaign against drugs like QAAT, people like Abukar Awale. Basically what I am saying is to make a change we need a positive, resilient can do way of thinking rather than wallowing on our problems, insulting others and calling it "tough love". I see that this is something that you have a lot of feelings towards, but my criticism was not in anyway meant to offend but to just offer an alternative. Cheers sxb
I admit I can be crass sometimes, but I guess it's just this feeling of hopelessness that prevails over me when I see Somali men do stupid shit like making that west African male marrying some xalimo bimbo thread that had all these faggots hyperventilating. We have more urgent problems to attend to and deal with than worry about who some broad decides to marry.
I can see where your coming from though. But I think there should be a balance. You can still have good qalbii and provide for the family and be successful at the same time. I've noticed many Somalis tend to bring that point up for some reason though.
All I want is greatness for my people, yet everyone just ignores me as if these issues don't exist or just do some stupid shit like honing in on some irrelevant bullshit on my posts whilst my points go completely flying over their heads. The reason why I generalise is because
waa ruunta. the vast majority of us are pretty much screwed, whether we can overcome this, only Allah knows.
I can still love my people and be a patriot while criticising them to be better overall human beings. It's my right and duty to do so.
It takes years, possibly decades, of hands-on, on the ground, field work to make a positive change. None of us have all the answers, but degrading us and airing our ceeb in public, as if Somalis aren't stigmatised enough as it is, is not the way forward sxb. You have your heart in the right place, but you're making this about you and your frustrations when it should be about the best way for us to move forward as a people. This ain't it.
Also, like I said, most of us here are first generation refugees. Some of the people who came here were not suited for this environment. They thought that they could just continue their marfash culture and never adapted to their new surroundings. Those people are basically lost and it's on us to pick up their mess and clean up after them.
Their kids lack father figures and positive role models - we have to provide that. They lack help and support- we have to provide that. These kids don't need to be put down and demoralised since they're already suffering from a multitude of inferiority complexes. What you're doing is very counterproductive, even though you mean well.