Bless your heart Phinks. Did you selectively read that?I said I was making a flawed argument.
Apologies. I quickly skimmed it and let my emotions get a hold of me.
I won't invalidate the experiences of men that are left in hard times (financially or in jail). If she leaves you when you're broke then count yourself lucky, Alhamdulilah for your health. Here comes the truth, women are more likely to be victims of spouse abandonment than men, particularly when facing a serious illness.
Do you have statistical evidence to back up this claim? Okay, let's just say for the sake of argument that men are more likely to abandon their spouse; can we at least agree on the fact that it solely depends on the individual?
Here comes the blanket statement, women (not all) but many are forgiving of men in terms of looks, decline in libido, loss of muscle mass, thinning hair and many of the accompaniments of aging. Are they collectively saints? -no.
Many women are forgiving in terms of looks? I'm sorry, but this is where I draw the line. I would safely say a good 10% of women wouldn't really care about looks. Just use this site as an example! Most of the females here want the features I listed above. And surprisingly, these are Somali muslim women. To be honest Sophisticate, I can't help but feel you're just putting up a good girl facade. There are two kinds of women in my opinion: the ones that get hot and bothered for the exciting bad boys who passionately sweep them off their feet, and the ones that don't admit it to themselves so they can keep up the "good girl" image. Call it a hunch if you will but you come off as the latter.
To be honest, Phinks there is no need to be insecure about money. What you are saying is a major preoccupation of men. Don't let your self-esteem rest in your earning capacity/net worth. I know a couple of men around my age (28 -33) that are Somali and they are doing well for themselves Masha'Allah and they are single. However they are insecure about their financial or academic success. They blame Xaliimos for ignoring them when they didn't have it together and coming out of the wood work now that life is good. I don't know why but I can't stand that outlook and could not put up with someone like that.
Can I ask why this pisses you off? It is perfectly natural and understandable for these men to get angry at the women who were ignoring them when they were basically nothing in their early teens/early twenties. And do you know how annoying it is for xalimos to express their interest in you
only after you made something of yourself? After you increased your net worth? How annoying it is when Xalimos talk to my sisters just because they fancy me? Like where the fuck were you before?!
It's amazing how you get pissed off but truthfully speaking, while Somali women were chasing "Abdi G Farah" and "Jamaal Carter" Ali and Abdinasir were wanking with their tear induced lubricant. But now that Ali and Abdinasir have jumped through hoops and studied their ass off in a STEM field or start a successful business and make something of themselves then finally after the Somali women start getting tired of the bad boys NOW they want them? What a f-king joke!
And you say money doesn't matter? You're gonna love this then!
I use something called the "ATM Receipt Test". I'll pick up a xalimo, and tell her I need to get some cash for the night. Not to humble-brag, I have a good amount of money in my checking account for a uni student. Five figures. What I'll do is go to the ATM, withdraw $50 or $100 or so, and I'll crumble up the receipt and throw it on the center console of my car
on purpose. Then I'll stop at a gas station to "get gas". Then I'll go into the gas station to "buy a soda" because I'm "thirsty".
While I'm in the gas station, nearly
every xalimo has looked at the receipt. I would say a good 2/3rds. I can tell because the receipt is crumpled in a different way than I left it. They uncrumpled it to look at my account balance. Then they get all confused and sad on why I don't return their phone calls.
You wanted an answer and I gave you one. The other man has less competition for mates. He's probably more attentive. He could be more virile. Plus, I've learned in life at my age that hotties normally aren't considerably funny (good looking comedians are hard to come by) . Tall men rarely live exceptionally long lives (I don't know if this has anything to do with shrinkage), all I can tell you is a lot of seniors aren't basketball player height (in general).
