Married or previously married people - in hindsight what would you have done differently?

BlackRain · Postby **BlackRain** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 2:17 am

One thing I regret is getting too close with her family . Sisters . Brothers and the mom and the dad all asking me favors and calling out of th blue asking how is my relationship with their daughter .

I should have kept my space in hindsight

AbkoowDhiblaawe · Postby **AbkoowDhiblaawe** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 4:19 am

One thing I regret is getting too close with her family . Sisters . Brothers and the mom and the dad all asking me favors and calling out of th blue asking how is my relationship with their daughter .

I should have kept my space in hindsight

dude your married to their daughter. You gotta help them out wtf is wrong with you mayne. Gabadhu bilaash miyaa lagu siiyay?

BlackRain · Postby **BlackRain** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 4:31 am

dude do u know how many of them ! 12 to be exact . It got to the point I stopped getting gift to her younger sister because I had to give gift to all of them , otherwise its gon look fishy .

I have my own family to take care also

Foxy22 · Postby **Foxy22** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:33 am

dude do u know how many of them ! 12 to be exact . It got to the point I stopped getting gift to her younger sister because I had to give gift to all of them , otherwise its gon look fishy .

I have my own family to take care also

shame

Postby **MujahidAishah** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:38 am

One thing I regret is getting too close with her family . Sisters . Brothers and the mom and the dad all asking me favors and calling out of th blue asking how is my relationship with their daughter .

I should have kept my space in hindsight
dude your married to their daughter. You gotta help them out wtf is wrong with you mayne. Gabadhu bilaash miyaa lagu siiyay?

Wrong warshiekh gacal lama soo daweysto..
salama cayalkum uun baa naga dhexayay.

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:59 am

I dont even know them. They kept sending me pics and trying to chat with me. I didn't even delete the pics, If I was cheating I would've hid the pics.

Some women love chasing married men.

Lesson here is to have a conversation about what each party finds acceptable vis-a-vis social media.

I know I'm the jealous type so if I saw this in my husband's social media account (though wouldn't be looking in the first place), he'd be glad to have that secret bank account

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:00 am

dude do u know how many of them ! 12 to be exact . It got to the point I stopped getting gift to her younger sister because I had to give gift to all of them , otherwise its gon look fishy .

I have my own family to take care also
shame

Welcome Foxy

We were talking about "captainhasgustaraq.com" the other day

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:06 am

BV,

You without this forum is the chocolate cake without the chocolate....

But yeah listen to Salool, she knows best....dhinac oo agony aunt ina loo furoo wa! Best advice and keeps it 100% legit

I want chocolate cake now...thanks ladies

You are married, stay in your lane :ufdup:

Chocolate cake is for single ladies

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:11 am

Let's learn from your 20/20

What mistakes should those green behind the ears avoid.

Edit: and what pitfalls did you just not see coming. Overall advice?
marriage advice is like those multivitamin supplements, one just isn't enough.. don't overdose it dear

You don't have to try and implement all of the advice or lessons but it would be a shame to make the same mistakes made by others simply out of stubbornness.

Supplement your own life lessons by learning from others, you can't live long enough to make them all yourself. Besides in case you haven't noticed I am a "let's live happily ever after" romantic who actually believes that if you have a system in place you have a shot of moving that from an idealistic fantasy to a beautiful reality

InshaAllah, after I've been married for more than half my life to the same man I will write a book and tell people to ask as many questions and start as many relationship topics as possible. That would have been my secret

Ismail87 · Postby **Ismail87** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:13 am

Make sure his/her family doesn't have any problems with you hadii kale you're setting yourself up for a disaster

You shouldn't have kids in the first 3 years

As BnW said keep a secret bank account you don't know what the future holds for you two

Foxy22 · Postby **Foxy22** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:26 am

Thanks BlackVelvet

is Captain Taraq still around?

I used to bully him. I think I had him on my location

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:37 am

Hey I noticed it the other day when I clicked on the MSS section and your nick had that as a location

I think he left but he could be around with another dirac, you never know.

Foxy22 · Postby **Foxy22** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:45 am

marriage advice is like those multivitamin supplements, one just isn't enough.. don't overdose it dear

You don't have to try and implement all of the advice or lessons but it would be a shame to make the same mistakes made by others simply out of stubbornness.

Supplement your own life lessons by learning from others, you can't live long enough to make them all yourself. Besides in case you haven't noticed I am a "let's live happily ever after" romantic who actually believes that if you have a system in place you have a shot of moving that from an idealistic fantasy to a beautiful reality

InshaAllah, after I've been married for more than half my life to the same man I will write a book and tell people to ask as many questions and start as many relationship topics as possible. That would have been my secret

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Care, Share, considerate, selfless, respect and loyalty. And a lot of love with Allah ataan ku qabto taan kugu dhigi lahaa feeling

Foxy22 · Postby **Foxy22** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:46 am

Ohh dear

I will keep it on I have the feeling that little girl is still around

BlackVelvet · Postby **BlackVelvet** » Sat Feb 28, 2015 7:49 am

Care, Share, considerate, selfless, respect and loyalty. And a lot of love with Allah ataan ku qabto taan kugu dhigi lahaa feeling

good summary and agree on all points.

Now to locate said man, 3 months of no dating left

Ohh dear I will keep it on I have the feeling that little girl is still around

name and shame if you catch him

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