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I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby grandpakhalif » Thu May 28, 2015 11:02 am

So I met this lovely girl on twitter after she liked my views and stuff (yea shocking there are girls who agree with me) and i met her after everything was perfect about her I mean she even got me through a rough patch and helped me financially. One problem she is 8 years older than me and has 2 kids. And no shes not somali shes a revert mixed girl

I feel so conflicted, I think I love her should I proceed the relationship or not its gettin to the point of marriage but i dont wanna be that guy who depends on his woman loool

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Deeqaaa » Thu May 28, 2015 11:08 am

What are your doubts?

You gotta ask urself some questions.. Do you really see a future with her? Do u see her as the mother of ur future kids? Will you be a father to her kids?

Or do you feel you owe it to her since she's been helping you out a lot?

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby BlackVelvet » Thu May 28, 2015 11:11 am

This is what Christmas must feel like :blessed:

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby BlackVelvet » Thu May 28, 2015 11:12 am

I think I love her should I proceed the relationship or not its gettin to the point of marriage but i dont wanna be that guy who depends on his woman loool

You got yourself a suga mamma, caadi iska dhig and sit on that woman's lap!

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Xamud. » Thu May 28, 2015 11:14 am

:lol: :lol:

I don't know what to tell you, but you should never depend on a woman, not financially atleast, they will hold it over you everytime you argue, and they will make sure to emasculate you so bad that you will come out of the relationship feeling like a sissy, I have seen it happen before.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby PrinceDaadi » Thu May 28, 2015 11:22 am

What are your doubts?

You gotta ask urself some questions.. Do you really see a future with her? Do u see her as the mother of ur future kids? Will you be a father to her kids?

Or do you feel you owe it to her since she's been helping you out a lot?
Eyadaa ii dhahday.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby zumaale » Thu May 28, 2015 11:23 am

Give your wrists a rest and marry her.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby grandpakhalif » Thu May 28, 2015 11:26 am

What are your doubts?

You gotta ask urself some questions.. Do you really see a future with her? Do u see her as the mother of ur future kids? Will you be a father to her kids?

Or do you feel you owe it to her since she's been helping you out a lot?
Yeah I do, her kids are still quite young but I carry my own baggage I guess

BV, i hate that phrase suga mama it feels as your using that person strictly for financial reasons

The main reason i like her cus of character and really outstanding religiosity

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby grandpakhalif » Thu May 28, 2015 11:29 am

:lol: :lol:

I don't know what to tell you, but you should never depend on a woman, not financially atleast, they will hold it over you everytime you argue, and they will make sure to emasculate you so bad that you will come out of the relationship feeling like a sissy, I have seen it happen before.
Exactly bro i fear this the most to have my manhood stripped and be a sissy. Imagine while u two are having argument she says i wear the pants in this shit what a big ceeb to get bac madoow if u fail to oblige :damn:

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby BlackVelvet » Thu May 28, 2015 11:39 am

Grandpa age is not that big of a deal and neither is the fact that she has kids


The biggest question here is which views she agrees with. You've shared very many and some conflicting. You should get someone who balances you out, disagrees with you at times and helps you see things from a different perspective


You are already blind in one eye, don't let her push you into becoming completely blind :damn:

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Idman702 » Thu May 28, 2015 11:49 am

So you're a kept man. Interesting!

GPK you're still young, don't waste your youth in a woman who already had her time and kids. Look for someone close to your age or even younger, the older woman can manipulate you and you will regret everything later when it's too late. Cut her loose and don't look back. Give her the money she helped you with.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Kaafiye » Thu May 28, 2015 11:50 am

Do whatever makes you happy. Just don't be impulsive and ask yourself can you really see yourself with this woman in 20 years time.

And see if your parents are first okay with this relationship

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Firefly » Thu May 28, 2015 11:54 am

I think you should sort yourself out first. Be at a place where you are able to take care of yourself and others. Also, are you ready to take on the responsibility of 2 kids? There's a lot to consider. Don't make any decisions just yet, find someone trustworthy to advice you and pray istikharaah.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby Jugjugwacwac » Thu May 28, 2015 11:56 am

Do whatever makes you happy. Just don't be impulsive and ask yourself can you really see yourself with this woman in 20 years time.

And see if your parents are first okay with this relationship
Everyone is different, so this is the best advice. I know personally I couldn't marry a woman older than me. And yes, make sure it won't create problems with ur parents.

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Re: I need advice (first relationship topic)

Postby SultanOrder » Thu May 28, 2015 11:58 am

Run bro Run!


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