Sex Ed for Somali Kids:
1. Allah has created human beings with innate sexual desires intended to ensure the propogation of the human race. Thus, the primary purpose of sex is reproduction. A secondary benefit is that Allah has made it a pleasurable experience.
2. Allah has also sanctioned the institution of marriage between a man and a women, and it is only within this moral context that romantic love and sex can be pursued. This has been inverted in the West, which views romantic love as the moral place to experience sex and marriage.
3.Pre-marital sex is fraught with many dangers and consequences in the hereafter and in our worldy lives. These include Allah's wrath and punishment, unwanted pregnancies, children born out of wedlock, abortion, and STD's.
4. Girls need to be especially careful of Zina. That's because, along with beauty, the quality honourable men value above all is chastity. A young women who engages in Zina injures her honour and that of her family's and will not be able to marry the type of man she dreamed of as a girl.
What have I missed people?
Well said. I think ill effects of pornography/ masturbation should be discussed too. We shouldn't sweep such things under the rug like they aren't issues affecting young Muslims.
This topic reminded me of this discussion forum I attended about 'issues within a marriage' run by Somalis. It was an interactive thing, in which audiences contribution both male and female was encouraged. One of the scenarios was about a couple who were having intimacy problems in their marriage, the girl was complaining that she was not satisfied and the guy was blaming her FGM. Anyways, the male MC was like "we won't ask audiences for their input on this specific scenario due to sensitivity and we will direct this to the shuyookh"
This daring single girl in a hijab, stood up in protest and said "why are we shying away and not asking for input from both genders? Me personally, I think maybe it's not the wife who is the issue, the husband needs to find out what gets her going/ what spots to hit, basically men should come and explore our bodies" Mind you all the guys were staring at her
qolka dhan yaab iyo yaxyax baan dareemnay. While I agree that Somalis make sex/marriage taboo to the point that it's unhealthy and provide little guidance to young people, it's important to not go to the other extreme.