Dealing With Negative People....Is It A Somali Thing?

[Tuushi]

I don't even remember the last time i cared enough. Always lived far from Somalis and kept to myself. And God knows what they think of me.
One of the rarest experience was coming into a room where another family's daughters where being talked badly abt. I kinda just waited until i realized they were saying they go to "clubs". I knew the said "clubbing" these girls went to was in fact an after school program at the library. They were slandering people like that. I was angry. Told them to learn what club means first and maybe next time to actually see the person doing the bad stuff before sharing it with a room full of willing ears.

Rule of thumb when dealing with Somalis.

1. Dont be rude but be stern at where u stand. Keep ir private life private.
2. Avoid all gatherings if possible. I only ever attend family related ones. My family.

[Susu000]

I don't even remember the last time i cared enough. Always lived far from Somalis and kept to myself. And God knows what they think of me.
One of the rarest experience was coming into a room where another family's daughters where being talked badly abt. I kinda just waited until i realized they were saying they go to "clubs". I knew the said "clubbing" these girls went to was in fact an after school program at the library. They were slandering people like that. I was angry. Told them to learn what club means first and maybe next time to actually see the person doing the bad stuff before sharing it with a room full of willing ears.

Rule of thumb when dealing with Somalis.

1. Dont be rude but be stern at where u stand. Keep ir private life private.
2. Avoid all gatherings if possible. I only ever attend family related ones. My family.

My mum once had a friend who constantly was in my business, calling my mum and saying I saw Susu there I saw Susu here and etc. this friend of hers had two daughters which she believed was perfect and good girls. Mum once replied to her, you don't need to report my daughters whereabouts to me as I already always know.

Today, one of her daughters is like a bar manager or something and the other one is living with an English guy.

[Basra-]

If there's one thing I learned being raised in the Somali community, amongst Somali peers, relatives, just regular people you come across, is that it feels so sneaky,vindictive,shady,fake etc. Is being apart of any large community like this? Constantly throwing shade, feeling like you have to be prepared for the negativity thrown your way? I feel like I have to constantly be on my toes with my own family, with friends,with my parent's friends.I can't even have fun because I have to prepare myself for a verbal attack or a witty comeback incase a neighborhood Habaryar or local frienemy wants to give you fever. If it's not your shady aunt talking smack, its your Somali homegirl or your mom's homie/competition. Why does being in the Somali community feel like a TV reality game show? It's survival of the fittest and I just can't keep up.

IF u lost Weight dear--u wont feel so paranoid.

[mahoka]

^kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

[MissSkeptical]

I don't even remember the last time i cared enough. Always lived far from Somalis and kept to myself. And God knows what they think of me.
One of the rarest experience was coming into a room where another family's daughters where being talked badly abt. I kinda just waited until i realized they were saying they go to "clubs". I knew the said "clubbing" these girls went to was in fact an after school program at the library. They were slandering people like that. I was angry. Told them to learn what club means first and maybe next time to actually see the person doing the bad stuff before sharing it with a room full of willing ears.

Rule of thumb when dealing with Somalis.

1. Dont be rude but be stern at where u stand. Keep ir private life private.
2. Avoid all gatherings if possible. I only ever attend family related ones. My family.

I feel you. But even relatives can be savage

[AgentOfChaos]

People are all the same no matter where you go, some look for the positive, and they often find it. But many others look for the negative, and that is all they ever find.

[TheblueNwhite]

Anyone following the story of the Somali lady who kidnapped her two boys from London and got caught living in Hamilton, Ontario. Well, when she moved to Canada she befriended some ladies and told them about her secret and her life in England.


Fast forward to August 2015. The ladies she confided in, snitched on her to the authorities. Now she is jail.
Word is that she ran away from her abusive husband in London.

God damn it!

[Adali]

In my experience Somali community is very good and I enjoy being around my community, you don't have to worry too much if what you are doing is normal, if you're trying to be shady then it will be stressful to be among Somalis because we will judge you ! I know it is not cool, but everyone judges, even the non-Somalis judge you, but there is a racial barrier between you so they won't let it show, whereas Somalis will let you know !

[Tuushi]

I don't even remember the last time i cared enough. Always lived far from Somalis and kept to myself. And God knows what they think of me.
One of the rarest experience was coming into a room where another family's daughters where being talked badly abt. I kinda just waited until i realized they were saying they go to "clubs". I knew the said "clubbing" these girls went to was in fact an after school program at the library. They were slandering people like that. I was angry. Told them to learn what club means first and maybe next time to actually see the person doing the bad stuff before sharing it with a room full of willing ears.

Rule of thumb when dealing with Somalis.

1. Dont be rude but be stern at where u stand. Keep ir private life private.
2. Avoid all gatherings if possible. I only ever attend family related ones. My family.

My mum once had a friend who constantly was in my business, calling my mum and saying I saw Susu there I saw Susu here and etc. this friend of hers had two daughters which she believed was perfect and good girls. Mum once replied to her, you don't need to report my daughters whereabouts to me as I already always know.

Today, one of her daughters is like a bar manager or something and the other one is living with an English guy.

Waa shaqo la`aan.I think we as a community spend lots of time and effort on things that dont concern us.If we only we spent that much effort of bettering our selves.

[YummyMummy]

Anyone following the story of the Somali lady who kidnapped her two boys from London and got caught living in Hamilton, Ontario. Well, when she moved to Canada she befriended some ladies and told them about her secret and her life in England.


Fast forward to August 2015. The ladies she confided in, snitched on her to the authorities. Now she is jail.
Word is that she ran away from her abusive husband in London.

God damn it!

That's so sad, for the kids especially... what have those women benefited from breaking up a family starting a new life?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Anyone following the story of the Somali lady who kidnapped her two boys from London and got caught living in Hamilton, Ontario. Well, when she moved to Canada she befriended some ladies and told them about her secret and her life in England.


Fast forward to August 2015. The ladies she confided in, snitched on her to the authorities. Now she is jail.
Word is that she ran away from her abusive husband in London.

God damn it!

That's so sad, for the kids especially... what have those women benefited from breaking up a family starting a new life?

New life? What new life? Taking away these poor kids from their father? I dnt buy that she ran from abusive husband c'mon now we arnt in Africa, she has no right to take these kids away from their dad without him being ok with it nd I am glad these ladies did the right thing!

[Tuushi]

Anyone following the story of the Somali lady who kidnapped her two boys from London and got caught living in Hamilton, Ontario. Well, when she moved to Canada she befriended some ladies and told them about her secret and her life in England.


Fast forward to August 2015. The ladies she confided in, snitched on her to the authorities. Now she is jail.
Word is that she ran away from her abusive husband in London.

God damn it!

That's so sad, for the kids especially... what have those women benefited from breaking up a family starting a new life?

I am not sure if this woman was as innocent as u think.She uprooted little boys and ran away with them against the law and her spouse.

It is amazing how i find out things from my own city here first.

[GAMES]

Tuushi i couldn't have said any better. She practically kidnapped her own children.

[YummyMummy]

Anyone following the story of the Somali lady who kidnapped her two boys from London and got caught living in Hamilton, Ontario. Well, when she moved to Canada she befriended some ladies and told them about her secret and her life in England.


Fast forward to August 2015. The ladies she confided in, snitched on her to the authorities. Now she is jail.
Word is that she ran away from her abusive husband in London.

God damn it!

That's so sad, for the kids especially... what have those women benefited from breaking up a family starting a new life?

New life? What new life? Taking away these poor kids from their father? I dnt buy that she ran from abusive husband c'mon now we arnt in Africa, she has no right to take these kids away from their dad without him being ok with it nd I am glad these ladies did the right thing!

right thing being putting the mother in jail and her kids in social care?! You have a disproportionate sense of justice.

Tuushi fair enough, I don't know anything about it except what Blue wrote, but how much can you now about the reality of any marriage? We can't deny that her husband was abusive any more than we can prove that he was... there's a reason she ran away with the kids...

Games can one kidnaps one's own children? A contradictory conundrum...

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^^

“She was wanted for Unlawful Abduction of her two sons and disobey a court order in Manchester, England

2011 the boys’ father, Abdul Abubakar claimed a wall of silence in Manchester’s Somali community was stopping police from finding his two children.

Abdul, 45, said at the time he believed that friends and relatives of Anisa, his ex-wife, paid for her to leave the country.

Abdul and Anisa, both originally from Somalia, met in Manchester and were married in 2004 – only to get divorced in 2007.

The children were at the centre of a three-year court battle over access. Abdul was granted access to his son by the family courts in late 2009. By leaving Manchester with the two children without consulting Abdul, Anisa, 31, breached a family court order - prompting the international manhunt after Abdul raised the alarm.

http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/ ... rs-9859202

do you still believe she ran away from an abusive husband? ps, i am sure the father will take his kids.