Postby Dj_Clue1 » Thu Nov 10, 2005 2:07 am
Hi,
I'm new to the forum and I am glad that I randomly found this site because I'm glad to see that I am not the only young male dating an older female. I had always been put off by older female because I was always told that they were out to take advantage of young boys/men. I'm a 19 year old male and it seems like the only girls that approach me are older females and if I do date a women my age then it seems to never work because we're at two different levels in life.
I recently started dating my older lady (or OL), she is 40, a couple of months ago and I can honestly say she is the first women I was able to open up myself completely too. She's very respectful to me and she is just a true lady. I am completely falling for this female and I've never fallen this easily or fast for any women. she says she has fallen in love with me. she's been married twice and she has five kids (all are in their early teens except for one). But, by the I found this out, I had already started developing feeling for her. Should I be worried about the fact that she has kids close to my age (oldest being 16)?
I really want to pursue this relationship and there is nothing that is going to hold me back, but the negative opinion/views I am getting from my friends and loved ones has me feeling like I'm making a big mistake. Is this what I have to aspect when embarking on a relationship with my OL. I mean some of their comments are down right hurtful. Did anybody experience this when they started dating their older lady? If so, how do you deal with it? I don't want to lose her because I think I have fallen in love with her and I don't want people to accept my choice. Since this is all so new me I just don't know how to handle it and I guess that is where my fear comes in. I'm new to all of this and I just need some kind of advise to get past the negativity so I can focus on what is real.
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