Husband hunting

[OliveOil]

Hey y'all, howdy partners. Maxaa meesha lagu haayaa? How r my Somali people?


So this is a serious topic. I don't know what to do kinda...well really.


Last time I was actually active on this joint was back in 2013 before I got married. As soon as I got married, I discontinued using this site. There were few times I peep'ed in here and there starting this year. I have a strong dislike for this place now. Hopefully I change that because I'm getting sick and tired of facebook really.

Anyways, my topic of discussion for today is husband hunting. I'm already experienced in that department but I would really like your inputs. I got divorced a year ago exactly and I have been dating since around Feb of this year and everyone I met were missing something major or important to me per se. However, I recently met two great guys who could be potential husbands. Since I have been hurt so badly and carry a heavy negative feeling towards men....I honestly don't want to give up on them at the same time. I always find myself saying things like "I will grow old without a man and children" "Allah never said marriage is a must/qasab" "I will focus on bettering myself, getting a nice career and travel the world" "being single will be a lot more fun" etc etc lol then I catch myself slipping into those believes. I don't think I will be able to live in this world without a companion and children of my own. So anyways, enough about my calaacal. I really want to give these guys a a major chance but I'm thinking....am I making a major mistake by talking to TWO AMAZING men at the same time?? What if I get confused about who to pick?? I know it will be a crazy ride but I need an advice before I loose both of them...because wallahi they r both wonderful human beings. I'm still trying to find out if we r compatible. If only women were able to marry more than one husband hahahahahaha joking lmaoo

Where r my older timers when u need them??

[Cherine]

Oliveoil! So nice to see you again walaal
Sorry to hear about your divorce runtii waan yara naxay but inshallah its successful next time around. I've never been in that situation before of talking to two amazing men at the same time, so don't have much of an advice. Bal is barbar saar & scrutinise them closely and choose the one who you can have an enduring loving marriage with.

[Vivacious]

Simple. In addition to Cherine's post, just follow your heart. Good luck

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

frist of all i am sorry about your divorce sis, second, are you sure you are over your divorce? or your ex? are you emotionally ready to start another relationship? if you arnt sure then i would suggest you do not date until you are certain that you're free from your past, if you are then congrats as for the two guys choose the one you have the most in common with, has the qualities you want in a husband ps ... you need to make up your mind quickly nd focus on one good luck.

[MujahidAishah]

OO nice to see sis. Sorry to hear about your divorce but waa qadar alle.

My advice would be to sit and wait you've only been divorced for a year. You need time to heal and get things together. But not too long otherwise you'll be in my boat to scared to make a commitment because you enjoy the single life

there are some amazing men out there but it's about weeding through the riff raff and finding that diamond in the dirt.

But inshallah kun kheyr

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

OO nice to see sis. Sorry to hear about your divorce but waa qadar alle.

My advice would be to sit and wait you've only been divorced for a year. You need time to heal and get things together. But not too long otherwise you'll be in my boat to scared to make a commitment because you enjoy the single life

there are some amazing men out there but it's about weeding through the riff raff and finding that diamond in the dirt.

But inshallah kun kheyr

your arabi is better than your somali

[MujahidAishah]

^^^ why you in calcaal threads tho

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^ just helping the op out

[grandpakhalif]

you got divorced in one year?

[X.Playa]

Typical Somali women marriage, all driven by kacsi fever. Now that the kacsi is over and so called xalaal-wasmo novelty wears off the black somali widow is in heat again she is looking for a fresh poor male victim. God help us.

[X.Playa]

Oliveoil! So nice to see you again walaal
Sorry to hear about your divorce runtii waan yara naxay but inshallah its successful next time around. I've never been in that situation before of talking to two amazing men at the same time, so don't have much of an advice. Bal is barbar saar & scrutinise them closely and choose the one who you can have an enduring loving marriage with.

Laba qaawani isma qaado. Who are you to give an advice?

[gegiroor]

you got divorced in one year?

But what if she kicked him out??

[djibsomali]

miskiin
married after 2013 and divorced 2014 ?

inchallah face your next marriage as you are short changing the guy!
because if you not giving away either bikir or first husband.

Lower your expectation and next time to not divorce even if he is a sakhraan (alcoholic)

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

Divorced in a year? Subxanallah, ummadda Soomalida wey u dhamaatey.

[GeoSeven]

Some of you guys are

Olive, my advice, difficult as it might be...concentrate on talking to one of those men. Make a firm choice.